Me(27 f) found my bf (27 m) in a wedding. Our families are friends with each other( will tell you why this matters).
We have been together for 6 months of which I lived with him for the initial month, post which I had to leave for another city. In that month we made out extensively but never really had sex. I asked him if he is not wanting to have sex he told me he was a virgin. I was okay with it.
Two months later he came to see me again. We had a very romantic two days stay planned in the mountains and we still didn’t end up having sex. But this is when he told me he has never masturbated in his life but was a porn addict. He would edge himself constantly. I’ve never heard of such a thing and I asked him to explain. He told he growing up he was told it was a bad thing to masturbate and hence he never did. I asked him if he never ejaculated ever, he tells me he does sometimes in sleep but has never pleasured himself consciously.
I have also observed that he keeps touching him down there pretty frequently.
When I was with him for a month I tried to seduce him to see what happens. He gets an erection( not very hard) when I kiss him and move my hands across him but could not bring him to cum. He also is very agressive while making out- likes biting, a bit choking and resistance. He told me he wants me to resist him, that turns him on. I performed oral on him and in the very beginning, he stopped me. I tried again but he would physically stop me and tell me it is too much for him. He even told me that his ex also could never make him cum she tried all of this.
Now he told his family about me and both our families have agreed to marry me off to him. They just decided. In my culture this is common. I loveee this man, he is everything i ever wanted but this is an issue I need advice on. I’d marry him tomorrow if there’s any indication of having a healthy sex life with him. Im ready to go see doctors and whatever if this can be worked out. (But I can’t take him to a doctor before we get married, we both come from orthodox families, my family takes pride in ALLOWING me to stay unmarried till this age)
He is dextrocardiac ( a doctor friend told me that might cause infertility)
Thanks!
(Thank you for reading such a long post )