My wife 38f got with someone else just a few weeks after she split up with me 40m (certain he could of been in the picture beforehand but can’t prove it)
She ghosted him a few months later after I said I would be willing to give it another go. I didn’t find out about the other dude till after I moved back in with her and no she didn’t tell me. I found out by other means.
Anyhow here we are one year later… and.. i just dont know, I can’t let it drop, i just see them both together and it hurts. Yes she slept with him a couple of times.
She says she had no feelings for him and blames her mental heath. She was on antidepressants.
Yes before i moved out we where in seperate beds and basically living as housemates.
We have 2 kids. We have been together for 22 years married 8.
About 15 years ago she was texting a dude at work. Quite flirting planning to meet up for sex. She said it was a joke and winding him up, yes red flag
Another red flag im always the monster. She likes to make people aware if we have fought and paints me out to be the bad one. Usually 50/50. We have both done things we are not proud of. Her family and friends hate me. We both as bad as eachother
She is narcissistic, gaslighter and caught her lieing a few times
Thoughts?