Hey everyone, my wife and I have been having problems for years but we’ve always been able to calm after the explosions and talk and get through stuff to a certain extent.
In the past few years, it hasn’t been like that and my wife has been more combative and everything is a divorce conversation. She just wants her way or no way. No place for compromise or even compromise discussions. Basically, she says she did everything she could for me and it wasn’t enough so she’s refusing to do anything else and I have to do all the effort to fix things. She, also, started doing some manipulative stuff like trying to gain territory by reopening conversations we had closed a long time ago when there is a big fight thinking I would give in to her demands now because of I want to keep the family together.
I thought originally that she is just reaching her limit and that could be true because I have my issues and I’m not the easiest to live with to be fair (I’ve been working on myself to be a better husband). I thought maybe her threshold is lower than mine and that’s fine. Also, my wife is not the manipulative type and she’s not the type that plays games and such.
Unfortunately, I realized recently that her best friend is egging her on. She keeps hyping her up and telling her what to do in fights and how to use it to gain territory and stuff like that. Thinking back, our major problems happened around the time she became very close with that friend. She lives close by and they meet almost every day and chat on the phone multiple times a day.
Please give me your knowledge?