I (24F) am on top very rarely. I think it's great in theory because my boyfriend (23M) can do less work and get a view. I just generally don't initiate it with him after trying a few times and feeling pretty embarrassed by how exhausted I was within only a minute. I'd be covered in sweat, out of breath, and usually got no sexual stimulation out of it because I was mainly just trying to not stop every couple of pumps. I don't mind if I don't orgasm because pleasing my man is enough but it feels like I'm too unathletic to be on top for long.
Do I just need jacked thighs to bounce on my man's dick? Im not in terrible shape and am pretty skinny but i dont work out often. I feel like I'm bringing dishonor to our relationship considering how long he can be on top of me.
He just texted me implying he wants me to top tonight and I'm genuinely tweaking. I will absolutely suck it up and do it for as long as possible but I wanna know if maybe im actually doing something wrong. For the record, I straddle his waist and pump up and down with a decent pace. I sometimes try and do some grinding but I haven't been on top much throughout my life and I feel like the lack of experience is contributing to this. Is being on top just tough? Or is there some kind of form/ position I should take on top that's less exhausting? I have no issue putting in work and often do but as soon as I'm on top I might as well be as muscular as a paperclip.