i (26f) have been with my bf (32m) for 6 months. he’s the first/only person i’ve slept with. due to a bunch of issues in my past, i had just never trusted anyone enough til i met him
with the context out of the way, here’s the issue – about 6 weeks ago we were talking casually, and he got curious about how i used to satisfy myself before i met him. i told him i’d mostly use toys, and because he kept asking for details, i looked up my vibrator/dildo on the website i bought them from and showed him
i didn’t think anything of it but he got kind of quiet after that and looked at the product page on my phone for a long time before handing it back to me. then he made a comment about the dildo’s size and how ‘big’ it was. i still wasn’t thinking anything of it and just shrugged it off like ‘it’s not that big,’ because it was really nothing crazy
long story short, it turns out the dildo i used to use when i was a virgin was 0.8 inches longer and 0.5 inches thicker than him. he checked. and as a result, he’s convinced himself there’s no way i feel satisfied with his penis. i feel bad because it seems to have affected his confidence, but i’m also annoyed because i’ve never done anything to imply i’m disappointed with his size. the way he acts in bed has changed now and it feels like he’s trying to over-compensate by being rougher/more ‘dominant.’ i’ve already spoken to him about it but it feels like things will never go back to the way they were before and idk what to do