So as the title states, my mom has cancer and I’m posting this for her.
We found out in June and things have been kinda tough since then, me and my mom had to move 3 hours away and live in an entirely new city for 2 months while she was undergoing treatments.
We got home 2 weeks ago and thought everything was fine, that was until yesterday. My mom was in her room and saw a receipt on the bed, she picks it up and sees a charge from a debit card for $300, she texts my dad and he says they need to talk, bear in mind my parents have been married for 20 years.
My dad gets home and says he wants a divorce, they talk and then she asked if he was cheating and he admitted that he’s been having an affair with a woman he met on tiktok for the past 4 months (so the entire time my mom has had cancer and into the months of her treatment), he also then admitted to using money a church had given to us for my moms cancer to open his own bank account, and he has also been giving my moms cancer money to his affair partner.
He blamed my mom for everything, saying she made him miserable and that she treated her kids bad (this isn’t true), he said he felt like she didn’t care about him, etc. he refused to take accountability for anything that he’s done and blames her for how he’s feeling, but he’s diagnosed ADD, Bipolar, depression, etc.
He ended up apologizing and saying he wants this family and doesn’t want to divorce, but now my mom is unsure what to do. We don’t have enough money to live with them divorcing, but he also did something unforgivable. How do we move forward?
ETA; he’s medicated for his disorders but he stopped all meds cold Turkey in like February this year. He also just told my mom that he did all of this because he was scared of her dying