I 26M was talking to this girl 23F for about two weeks. The spark was there and strong. We had too many things in common, it was almost too good to be true. We met up once and the vibe was similar in person. We spoke on the phone for 10 plus hours a couple times more before planning the second meeting. One day later, I wasn't able to text her because I was getting my schedule and routine in order, but I also didn't think texting was necessary since we literally fell asleep on the phone together a few days ago and made plans to meet that weekend.

She sends me a paragraph about how she thinks I'm losing interest and how she can't even get a good morning or goodnight text from me. Mind you, on these hours long phone calls, I said numerous times, verbatim, "i really like you", "you're the best match I've had thus far", etc. We're also still in the talking stage by the way. Not two days later she's acting like this? I sent her a message clarifying my interest in her is still there and that I was busy getting my routine in order which she knew already. I also said that if she needs constant reassurance despite my already pretty clear efforts of interest then we are likely incompatible.

She responses "I don't communicate like that" and said goodbye. Now I didn't chase her and won't but I'm left here needing a bit of closure because I genuinely really liked her and thought there was potential there. I don't even want to talk to anyone else at this point. Was I wrong? I feel like she was really insecure and was needing that external validation to feel good about herself constantly.


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