I (24F) in a three-year relationship with my boyfriend (25M). Recently, we had an important conversation about having children, and I realized I’m uncertain about what I want. I grew up in a lower-income immigrant family without much community support, while he has always wanted kids by the time he's 28-32 (theres a decent amount of time between now and then) I have personal goals like traveling, earning a PhD, and achieving financial stability, which feel more complicated with children. I'm very much 50/50 on the fence.
We’re still together, but I’m struggling with how our different desires might affect our future. I’d appreciate perspectives on how to navigate this kind of uncertainty in a relationship and find clarity about such a big decision.