This is happening right now, so any advice for this week would be great people.
I am a fast writer, meaning I write alot, but please, if you're invested from the title, I need to give you context. have values that I look for in dating, and the way my generation dates around right now, its just not it. So Hello, Ive noticed in these recent years thanks to social media, peer pressure to conform to the dating crisis, I look for attractive guys who are my type and sort of focus on them in a non creepy way anywhere I go, but especiallythe gym (which I know is normal because physiques and all). By focusing on them, I mean being aware very easily that "the guy is here" sort of thing. Anywhere I go, it can happen. But I'm really getting tired of my own bs.
The times where I have made a first move, letting them know I'm interested in conversations with them and testing whatever can happen, they respond in a way that I know doesn't match the same energy. Take in consideration the number of times I have seen and looked at them at the gym vs them. There hasn't been eye contact unless I go up to them because society has made it a scary thing to go up to a girl and tell her youre interested in her without looking like a creep, which I totally get, but now who does make the first move?
Take this situation for example: really my type guy does similar workouts to me on different days. I noticed him last week, for two days. On the second day, I wanted to go up to him but he looked really concentrated and even if youre attractive, don't fuck up my set. I get that. So didn't, and I told myself if he's there next week, I'll go up to him. Now Im really proud of myself for not thinking about him for less than a minute during my weekend, and I completely forgot about him when I did my gym the first day of my week. I noticed him halfway through my workout that day. Don't make fun of me, but I'm only beginning to understand the proper form of a bicep curl, but needed help to how I position my arm to isolate the muscle. Who better to ask then the guy himself because he looks like hes got that part under control. I went up to him after his set, I asked him, he responded nicely and showed me. I promise yous, I learned, I wasnt just staring at his bicep. Then he asked me what my name was, I answered, he reached out and we shook hands, and he said his name.
Q&A: What should I make of him asking my name and shaking hands, or do I just see not overamalyze?
Now the next day after that, I noticed him quickly. We do our workouts, I look at him through mirrors without him noticing, and let me clarify something here: I get fascinated easily. The body, the weather, the brain, its like witnessing gold in a way. So when muscles flex, I just really like the process of it. So his muscles during his set, they are wow. Like really. Anywho, towards the end of my workout, I saw him struggling and then lower weight. I went up to him and told him to imagine youre trying to hit someone, it usually helps me to finish my set. He sums up why he lowers his sets, I asked him what he did before this because it really looked like he was pushing hard for it. He goes through names, Im visual so I know a few from his list, says he has one more set than one more excercise. Then he asks "what about you?"I say Im almost done, I need to do the treadmil then I'm out. He says "good luck" then raises his fist to bump mine, which we do.
So now, heres the real question. Ive gone up to him twice now, and hes responded nicely both of those times. I dont think he has girlfriend based on how he responded to me. But do I do something again or just really see what happens if I don't. We'll probably both be there tomorrow as well. I guess I am a bit impatient for the whole "let him come to you" thing, like why dance around the idea when we can just go for it mutually. And then hypothetically speaking, do I just let it go if nothing else happens without him making a move? Or does he expect for me to make a move again? Im not sure, this is why I need advice, especially from a guy's perspective.