I’ve been dating someone (let’s call her L) for a few months. Things have been deep and emotionally open between us, but I’ve also been feeling some frustrations and doubts.
A few examples:
• I invited her to an event I was excited about. She first said she was looking forward to seeing me, but later canceled last minute, saying she was too busy. Instead, she asked me to come over to her place.
• This isn’t the first time she’s shifted plans, and it leaves me feeling like I can’t fully trust her consistency. On one hand, she talks about building trust and wanting an ideal relationship, but on the other hand, her actions don’t always match.
• I also notice myself getting frustrated or even angry when things like this happen. At the same time, I wonder if I’m taking it too personally or expecting too much.
So here’s my question:
Do you think this is a relationship worth pursuing, or are these red flags that I should take seriously? And as a man in this situation, how should I approach it step back, set boundaries, or lean in and compromise more?
Would love to hear outside perspectives.