I enjoy sex but lately I've been put off by just how much time, energy, thinking, I am putting into this. I wish I could just turn off this monkey brain, that has me daydreaming about women in public, about co workers, the woman in the advert on the train, tiring my wife, spending my money (we have an arrangement that I can make use of a professional service, I dont want to talk about this), and generally just taking up so much of my time and day that its just disruptive. I wish I could go back to be being a child, where I had no interest in this stuff.
And why is this happening anyway? Im 33 years old, not 17, surely I shouldn't be feeling MORE horny now? If I was a dog I know what my owners would have done by now…
I used to take SSRis and that certainly did blunt some of my sex drive, but it would take a lot more than that to cool me down, and I'm sure as fuck not going back there. But its clearly chemically possible.
Any advice, please?