My girlfriend and I have been together about a year. We had sex on the first date and felt an attraction ever since. The problem is, during sex, she cums entirely too quickly. If I perform oral, it’s less than 90 seconds and about 2 minutes if I’m penetrating. She can have 3-4 orgasms in less than 8 minutes and she’s ready to be done lol. For the women out there that experience this, what are some tips for her to improve her stamina? I guess I could play around with her and not hit her spots but she doesn’t seem as satisfied that way. I would much rather her have one big explosive orgasm versus multiple “quickies”. Also ladies, is there different levels to the orgasm? Would one big orgasm feel better than 4-5 quickies in 10 minutes?
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My girlfriend and I have been together about a year. We had sex on the first date and felt an attraction ever since. The problem is, during sex, she cums entirely too quickly. If I perform oral, it’s less than 90 seconds and about 2 minutes if I’m penetrating. She can have 3-4 orgasms in less than 8 minutes and she’s ready to be done lol. For the women out there that experience this, what are some tips for her to improve her stamina? I guess I could play around with her and not hit her spots but she doesn’t seem as satisfied that way. I would much rather her have one big explosive orgasm versus multiple “quickies”. Also ladies, is there different levels to the orgasm? Would one big orgasm feel better than 4-5 quickies in 10 minutes?
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And the bad part? Haha
Bro is suffering from success..
One big orgasm doesn’t feel better nor worse than multiple smaller ones. Why do you not want her to cum so much? If she’s ending super early without you being satisfied then that can be talked about between the two of you. But otherwise, what’s the issue?
Dude are you f*cking serious
I would look up edging…pushing her to the brink and then denying her..it’ll be frustrating at first but well worth the wait for her…especially if you get her begging for it.
You dont understand how good you life is.
Why do you need to stop if she’s had an orgasm? Tell her that you love her being able to orgasm multiple times, but sex doesn’t have to end once she’s satisfied. Speaking from personal experience, my partner will usually have three orgasms before I finish. Even if she’s dead tired after that, she’ll still take the time to make sure I finish as well if I want to.
Slow your roll after she cums. Hug, cuddle and touch easy. My GF can get off within a few minutes as well. I have to change it up and be really gentle and read her body. Often, she is ready for faster and more after a cooling down period. Thier bodies are probably on fire after a big one….
Have you talked with her about it? If trying to slow things down is not something she’s considered or even thought is possible then maybe you can explore ways to slow down together. It could be fun.
So? What’s the problem?
Try desensitization prior to sex. I used to have this same problem. I would have my partner at the time use a dildo no vibration first then go to foreplay and sex. Also something that helps me is my partner now doesn’t stop when I cum. It’s hard sometimes not to squirm but with patience and practice I can now recover and we keep going. And it feels so much better too when he doesn’t stop when I cum. I don’t know if this will help her but it’s what I’ve seen have the best effects for me
I have this same issue, and yes she definitely would rather have one big orgasm rather than 5 smaller ones. Although, the smaller ones are really nice also. Unfortunately that is pretty difficult. The only way to prolong is to take attention away from her V and do something else. Also, if she takes care of the smaller ones on her own before sex, you will have a longer session.
Have you asked her if she wants less orgasms? Does she want one explosive one vs. multiple? Are you not orgasming because after she cums she stops participating?
So, is the problem here that she wants to stop having sex after she has come that many times? If so, getting you to come faster might be an easier solution. If she can get you right to the edge with manual or oral before penetration, it might help.
Keep her. Even if she becomes absolutely insane and joins a cult, keep her. If she jumps off a cliff, jump after her and try to catch her and hopefully land on something soft, if not, you wouldn’t want to be without her anyways. Now, sit your ass down and be a good boy and enjoy what you have and others only could dream of.
Tell her she’s a good girl & make her cum again.
I’m not a woman, but this is the sort of broad recommendation that isn’t tied to gender. Communication during sex will help a lot here. Let her know you want to have sex for a little longer than 8 minutes, and talk about whether that’s something she wants too. Ask her to articulate when she is getting close to orgasm or over-sensitive and take a moment to slow down on stimulation and back away from the edge of her orgasm.
Consider stopping penetration or oral before she climaxes and just kissing or masturbating together for a few minutes until you’re both ready to keep going. Alternate who gives and who receives oral sex to prolong sex a little more: when she gets too close or has orgasmed once switch to her giving you oral for a few minutes before resuming oral for her or intercourse together. Alternatively spend time together at the start of sex focusing on your pleasure to get you closer to satisfaction before doing the things that make her orgasm together.
Coordinating orgasms and figuring out how to finish sex in ways that leave both partners satisfied can be tricky! It’s not at all unusual that one of you will want more or less, or that one partner comes more quickly than another. Finding ways to compromise in hot ways that both of you enjoy is part of both the fun and the frustration of partnered sex.
Can she not finish you off maybe with something flavored?
Not a woman here, but for the record, increasing pressure and grabbing her a little firmer makes the skin and her spots less sensitive, while providing _more_ mental pleasure from mandhandling.
Work your way around the oral and on the rest of her body. Same result as edging her, she’ll still cum a lot and quickly, but when you choose.
Warning: May have severely addictive results for her.
To paraphrase an idiot, sometimes ‘grabbing by the pussy’ really is the best solution.
Ask her this question “How does it feel to be the Chosen One? Coming from a woman in her 40s who has orgasms with no sensation. It’s so fucking depressing. I actually had my first orgasm during sex last week and only knew because my legs wouldn’t quite shaking, my back arched and my guy said I was creamy. Beyond that, nothing. Absolute bullshit.
Be so happy you can please her so well.
I can’t even have one orgasm (29F)
Is she unhappy with the way she orgasms? I dont understand what the problem is? Id personally rather have multiples than 1.
Bro has problems of rich
I love multiple orgasms! Each one adds to the effect until I get literally fucked silly.
I wouldn’t want to have one big one, knowing how fun it is to have someone not stopping and keep giving me more and more. (But not everyone is into this)
Edge her. When she gets close, stop and do some foreplay for like 3 to 5 minutes and begin again.
You said what you want, but what about what she wants?
My fwb also use to cum quickly, and she ends up too sensitive, at least for oral. The key for improving her stamina is slowing the pace, keeping her close to orgasm but not too close and don’t rush the intensity.
This seems crazy to me. I’ve gone actual hours with my guy where I’m cumming every few minutes. It’s not hard for me to keep going. I get that everyone is different, but I’m over 50 years old and can absolutely go for hours. During these longer sessions, I typically have a couple totally insane huge orgasms, and OMG. It’s just unbelievable. The other orgasms are smaller, and that’s awesome too. We do lots of changing up with toys, and my guy making me squirt, etc. So…I would recommend trying a variety of toys and changing things up during the session. I would consider trying edging with her. That could help things last longer.
I cum really quickly but apart of my kink is overstimulation sooo I’m not sure to help but overstimulation is fun if yall wanna try it
Im sure you already asked her, but I would ask her again. She’s been getting herself off longer than anyone has and would have great insight into how her body works.
But hang on! If youre in it for the long haul, hormones will come along and change the game on you both. So make sure you touch base often