Would you be a housewife if your partner makes enough money for your family to live comfortably? Why or why not?
September 30, 2025
Would you be a housewife if your partner makes enough money for your family to live comfortably? Why or why not?
33 comments
No. I’d at least have a casual or part time job. Because I’d want my own freedom and financial safety. I don’t want to feel like I have to ask him whenever I need or want something for myself. Or have him being the “breadwinner” held over my head.
For me, it would depend on the dynamics. If my partner supported me staying home and I was genuinely happy doing it, then yes. But if it ever felt like my independence or voice was at risk, I wouldn’t.
No. Being a housewife is not something I would find fulfilling and in my opinion, it would be a huge sacrifice financially and career-wise.
Haha. No. Would you even ask a man this question?
When I was young ie in my 20s I would have thought yes. But nowadays – no way. Its just too risky. The likelihood of divorce is so high, and not having your own job or career to fall back on is incredibly dangerous. I’d at least be working in a career part time. Something where I have an opportunity to go back to full time and get promoted if I have to. If you aren’t the one seeking divorce, then you are the one who is shocked by the other person saying they want a divorce. If there is no divorce then you both have a better life in retirement.
Nope. Not interested in those roles. That’s just not me. I know I will burn out. I need something for my body and mind to work on and which is for me and not for him, kids or the kitchen.
Currently am. I worked my tail off in food service most of my life. Managed a few places, I’ve pulled doubles and worked weeks without a day off. I’ve worked 8 hour shifts completely alone. I’ve been at work throwing up blood. All so I could afford to exist and raise my daughter. I missed most of her younger years because I was working.
Now im a married, sentient potato. I finally get to take care of my health. Had a part of my skull removed. Apparently, I should have done that like a decade ago. My daughter is almost 18. We spend time hanging out. Going on day trips when we can swing it.
Nope, not fulfilling for me.
I am one, and it makes me feel free. At the same time, I’ve built and diversified assets to the point where I’d be financially set for life, even if my husband and I divorced today. To me, it’s about being smart and intentional, like anything else in life.
Absolutely, and without hesitation, not.
No. I have five children, a beautiful home and do not need to work. I work full time for government in public housing. It has such a high turnover due to burn out. I would still turn up tomorrow if I won the lottery. Strange but I love it.
Heck no! I would be bored out of my mind, I like the distraction of work.
No.
I was financially dependent once and never will be. I’m severely ill and can’t work enough to make a living on my own. But if I had to, I would raise my working hours to survive on my own (and I’m working in a field, I would find a full-time job within seconds).
It wouldn’t be fun, I would lose some years of life expectation and probably would become too ill to work at all in some years. But I live in a country with social security and have an insurance for that risk, so I still would be independent.
I would never quit working for any man, because out of house wife-ary it’s way harder to find work.
As a woman being dependent on the man’s good will is too dangerous.
No. I love my job and the way my life is now.
No, both because lack of independent financial means is a great way to end up trapped, and because I would die of boredom.
No. This is very dangerous and irresponsible to me. You can’t guarantee anything. Hope for the best, enjoy it. Plan for the just in case.
No, I would rather have a house husband. I just hate chores, money is not the issue.
Hell yeah. That’s my plan right now. I’ve done it in the past and I’m starting a second family now with my new husband and we both want me at home. I am lucky that I do have some assets so I’m not screwed if he leaves but even if I didn’t tbh I would take the risk and stay home anyway. My main motivation is I absolutely do not want my young kids in daycare. But I also hate working a 9 to 5 job, so there’s that.
Never. Ever. Never.
Always always always look out after your own money and be ready to be independent. At some point in your life, you will have to be.
hopefully much later, but you will have to be.
Do not let your skills get rusty.
yep. then i could dance and paint and homemake all day as my soul desires
no . there are many reasons tbh in fact i have no reason to be one
Absolutely not.
Each to their own. Some people would love this. I would hate it. There is not a single thing about the idea that is appealing to me and never will be.
No, too risky. He could abuse you and you wouldn’t be able to leave because you don’t have any money.
HELL YES!! I retired early when my husband was making primo money and it was a glorious day indeed!
Nope. Can’t do. I saw how my mom hated being a housewife and the challenges she faced and I strongly noped out of the idea
Also it seems kinda boring to me, even to retire early and do housework
Absolutely not. You give up your agency and freedom by doing that. Never let the balance of power shift do far out of wack.
Why do you think women fought so hard for their right to vote, work, have their own bank accounts and property??
Please someone marry me and. I’ll be happy to be housewife
Tired of workinggg
Can I answer retrospectively? Cos I’m retired.
I had a brilliant career as a registered nurse in the NHS here in the UK. My husband did earn enough for me to stay at home, but absolutely not. My brain would have rotted away
It depends on what you mean with “house wife”. Would I consider quitting working for someone else and do my own passion projects and start a small business? Yes ofc. But if I’m just to sit at home and do nothing then no. I’m too independent, would feel too guilty and get bored too easily to do that.
I also don’t mind having the roles reversed. If I earn enough to comfortably support my family then my husband could also take time to do his passion project. As long as he’s not just sitting on his hands all day.
No because i want a career. I want to earn my own money. And why would i want to set myself up for failure or struggle in the case of divorce or death of my husband or him losing his job or anything like that.
No. I enjoy having problems to solve and being around other adults, working towards a common goal and making my own money. I’d go bonkers only looking after the household, especially as I have no desire for children. I’d start a business or pet project within 3 months tops.
No. I would never be dependent on a partner. If they were able to support me while I built a business that would bring in income, maybe I’d take them up on it, but only temporarily.
Not gonna be a popular answer but I am one. We worked hard to get my husband’s career to the point that I could be a SAHM. He would not be where he is without me and he wouldn’t have our son without me. We are renovating a house top to bottom so managing that is, believe it or not, a pretty full time thing. It’s been 3 years so maybe I’m terrible at it lol! But we have our 5 year old and he has been in school since fall 2024 (UK); I volunteer there and elsewhere our community, I manage the house and the money. It’s the dream, for me.
We were married for 10 years before the kid came along, I had my own business, and full disclosure, I struggled with PPD and PTSD for years after our son’s birth and I’m so grateful I didn’t have to go back to a job after that. I am starting to think about what I’m going to do in the future because this can’t last forever but once my son is older, it will change. I always knew I was going to be home with my child. Wouldn’t have had him otherwise. I didn’t have a parent at home growing up, so I’m grateful to be there.
33 comments
No. I’d at least have a casual or part time job. Because I’d want my own freedom and financial safety. I don’t want to feel like I have to ask him whenever I need or want something for myself. Or have him being the “breadwinner” held over my head.
For me, it would depend on the dynamics. If my partner supported me staying home and I was genuinely happy doing it, then yes. But if it ever felt like my independence or voice was at risk, I wouldn’t.
No. Being a housewife is not something I would find fulfilling and in my opinion, it would be a huge sacrifice financially and career-wise.
Haha. No. Would you even ask a man this question?
When I was young ie in my 20s I would have thought yes. But nowadays – no way. Its just too risky. The likelihood of divorce is so high, and not having your own job or career to fall back on is incredibly dangerous. I’d at least be working in a career part time. Something where I have an opportunity to go back to full time and get promoted if I have to. If you aren’t the one seeking divorce, then you are the one who is shocked by the other person saying they want a divorce. If there is no divorce then you both have a better life in retirement.
Nope. Not interested in those roles. That’s just not me. I know I will burn out. I need something for my body and mind to work on and which is for me and not for him, kids or the kitchen.
Currently am. I worked my tail off in food service most of my life. Managed a few places, I’ve pulled doubles and worked weeks without a day off. I’ve worked 8 hour shifts completely alone. I’ve been at work throwing up blood. All so I could afford to exist and raise my daughter. I missed most of her younger years because I was working.
Now im a married, sentient potato. I finally get to take care of my health. Had a part of my skull removed. Apparently, I should have done that like a decade ago. My daughter is almost 18. We spend time hanging out. Going on day trips when we can swing it.
Nope, not fulfilling for me.
I am one, and it makes me feel free. At the same time, I’ve built and diversified assets to the point where I’d be financially set for life, even if my husband and I divorced today. To me, it’s about being smart and intentional, like anything else in life.
Absolutely, and without hesitation, not.
No. I have five children, a beautiful home and do not need to work. I work full time for government in public housing. It has such a high turnover due to burn out. I would still turn up tomorrow if I won the lottery. Strange but I love it.
Heck no! I would be bored out of my mind, I like the distraction of work.
No.
I was financially dependent once and never will be. I’m severely ill and can’t work enough to make a living on my own. But if I had to, I would raise my working hours to survive on my own (and I’m working in a field, I would find a full-time job within seconds).
It wouldn’t be fun, I would lose some years of life expectation and probably would become too ill to work at all in some years. But I live in a country with social security and have an insurance for that risk, so I still would be independent.
I would never quit working for any man, because out of house wife-ary it’s way harder to find work.
As a woman being dependent on the man’s good will is too dangerous.
No. I love my job and the way my life is now.
No, both because lack of independent financial means is a great way to end up trapped, and because I would die of boredom.
No. This is very dangerous and irresponsible to me. You can’t guarantee anything. Hope for the best, enjoy it. Plan for the just in case.
No, I would rather have a house husband. I just hate chores, money is not the issue.
Hell yeah. That’s my plan right now. I’ve done it in the past and I’m starting a second family now with my new husband and we both want me at home. I am lucky that I do have some assets so I’m not screwed if he leaves but even if I didn’t tbh I would take the risk and stay home anyway. My main motivation is I absolutely do not want my young kids in daycare. But I also hate working a 9 to 5 job, so there’s that.
Never. Ever. Never.
Always always always look out after your own money and be ready to be independent. At some point in your life, you will have to be.
hopefully much later, but you will have to be.
Do not let your skills get rusty.
yep. then i could dance and paint and homemake all day as my soul desires
no . there are many reasons tbh in fact i have no reason to be one
Absolutely not.
Each to their own. Some people would love this. I would hate it. There is not a single thing about the idea that is appealing to me and never will be.
No, too risky. He could abuse you and you wouldn’t be able to leave because you don’t have any money.
HELL YES!! I retired early when my husband was making primo money and it was a glorious day indeed!
Nope. Can’t do. I saw how my mom hated being a housewife and the challenges she faced and I strongly noped out of the idea
Also it seems kinda boring to me, even to retire early and do housework
Absolutely not. You give up your agency and freedom by doing that. Never let the balance of power shift do far out of wack.
Why do you think women fought so hard for their right to vote, work, have their own bank accounts and property??
Please someone marry me and. I’ll be happy to be housewife
Tired of workinggg
Can I answer retrospectively? Cos I’m retired.
I had a brilliant career as a registered nurse in the NHS here in the UK. My husband did earn enough for me to stay at home, but absolutely not. My brain would have rotted away
It depends on what you mean with “house wife”. Would I consider quitting working for someone else and do my own passion projects and start a small business? Yes ofc. But if I’m just to sit at home and do nothing then no. I’m too independent, would feel too guilty and get bored too easily to do that.
I also don’t mind having the roles reversed. If I earn enough to comfortably support my family then my husband could also take time to do his passion project. As long as he’s not just sitting on his hands all day.
No because i want a career. I want to earn my own money. And why would i want to set myself up for failure or struggle in the case of divorce or death of my husband or him losing his job or anything like that.
No. I enjoy having problems to solve and being around other adults, working towards a common goal and making my own money. I’d go bonkers only looking after the household, especially as I have no desire for children. I’d start a business or pet project within 3 months tops.
No. I would never be dependent on a partner. If they were able to support me while I built a business that would bring in income, maybe I’d take them up on it, but only temporarily.
Not gonna be a popular answer but I am one. We worked hard to get my husband’s career to the point that I could be a SAHM. He would not be where he is without me and he wouldn’t have our son without me. We are renovating a house top to bottom so managing that is, believe it or not, a pretty full time thing. It’s been 3 years so maybe I’m terrible at it lol! But we have our 5 year old and he has been in school since fall 2024 (UK); I volunteer there and elsewhere our community, I manage the house and the money. It’s the dream, for me.
We were married for 10 years before the kid came along, I had my own business, and full disclosure, I struggled with PPD and PTSD for years after our son’s birth and I’m so grateful I didn’t have to go back to a job after that. I am starting to think about what I’m going to do in the future because this can’t last forever but once my son is older, it will change. I always knew I was going to be home with my child. Wouldn’t have had him otherwise. I didn’t have a parent at home growing up, so I’m grateful to be there.