I set a boundary with my boyfriend of a year that I was uncomfortable with him watching porn alone, and he agreed. Later, we went on a break (not a breakup), and I made it clear we weren’t to see other people. After reconciling, I found out he’d been using a VPN to watch porn during our break. He admitted it but tried to excuse it, saying he was imagining me. I told him it was disrespectful and no different than cheating since it broke our agreement. I’m questioning the relationship, especially since the reason for our original break was me finding another girl added on his Snapchat with a crown emoji next to her name — which doesn’t appear when I search her profile, meaning he customized it. And for reference he has me saved with a ring emoji. Later on through the week I made a post on the tea app . A girl came through claiming she talked to him in April but never specified the year. She got every single detail down to his brothers correctly.
TL;DR: I set a no-porn boundary, he broke it during our “break,” and this comes after past suspicion of cheating (including a girl on Snapchat he personalized with an emoji). And women coming forward to me.
We are still together I have discussed it and he has apologized. This seems to be a reoccurring issue.I’m having trouble with trust. I want to make this work and for us to come through with getting through trust issues. What can I do for us to stay on good terms.
What should I do? Any advice without feeling like I have to supervise him. I want this to last.