They say that women mature faster than men and I totally get that now. When I look back at my younger self its amazing how stupid and immature I was as a guy. A lot of pretending to be confident but now I truly know who I am and feel that confidence. Its not even about more money or social status. I think my brain has finally developed fully at 37 and I'm done being a man child. I actually know how to talk to women, know what they want, and not be weird around them. I think I'm only getting better to.
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Nah, I’ve socially regressed since COVID, I have no interest in becoming more social these days, I prefer my peace and quiet.
Yeah I’m 33. It’s so different it’s wild.
I think I hit that stage around 25, and brain studies would back that time frame up for me. It’s different for everyone, when they decide to stop being “childish”, and I know men that will never grow out of acting like a teenage girl in terms of emotional intelligence and maturity.
For me it was a simple refusal of drama any longer. I don’t need that shit to entertain myself, and my goals are no longer just “get laid, get paid, exist”. I think that’s a huge part of it, goal setting and “discipline”(more like realism)
Glad you made it to a place of revelation though! I hope it goes extremely well for you!
Fighting the rot
Yeah easily. I’ve always looked forward to my 30s and now that I’m in my 30s I love it. My 20s mostly sucked.
Yes, 36 yr old here, big jump in the last 2-3 years and can’t tell why exactly
No, but that’s a personal thing because I kinda froze where I was in my early twenties. Most of my peer group seems to be hitting their stride in those areas, though, so as a general trend yeah maybe.
I was never really all that immature. But I felt a huge difference in my ability to process information and see the bigger picture right at that 25 mark. Things just started to click. I do sometimes miss that engine of enthusiasm and curiosity that got me through high school/university. I feel wiser now but it has slowed me down. Which is a good thing. But I do miss jumping into things blind and feet first sometimes.
Ever since I stopped giving a fuck on my 30th, so much growth has happened in many areas – many of our barriers are self created
I don’t remember observing that, no. I don’t even really know exactly what “maturity” means anymore.
I was never a manchild type. If I had to guess, I’d say that on a 1-5 scale in which 1 = total manchild and 5 = enlightened master of maturity, I was at a 3.5 in later high school and now in my mid-fifties I am at a 4. This change happened–if it happened at all, what do I really know?–at an imperceptibly slow rate. Or maybe one life lesson at a time. I don’t know.
Confidence is an orthogonal trait, in my view. One can be a highly confident manchild. I think my general life confidence was a similar 3.5 to 4 story. I knew roughly how to talk to people, including women, from high school on (not that that guaranteed any interpersonal outcomes).
But that still allows a huge margin for human stupidity, which I think I still have the chance to fall into across my whole lifetime, and will, even into my 70s and beyond.
Totally. I remember also thinking at 37 that I finally completely felt like an adult also. From there, I coasted in my (newer to me) work for a while, enjoying some other priorities while I gained experience. Recently in my early 40s I decided it was go time, and really started pushing with expanding my business, hiring employees, getting professional coaching, etc. Now I’m really in my prime, creating my reality.
I was not at all confident in my teens and 20s. Then I did some acid and mushrooms for a few years and am waaaaaay more comfortable putting myself out there. Wish I had this confidence when I was younger, I would have had a lot more fun.
The contrast is obscene.
Am in the same boat, 100% agree, I am a bit disappointed with how many opportunities I let go but it’s the price I paid to get here
Yeah it’s because people start treating you like an adult man and not a boy. You start to accomplish hard things in life and that builds confidence.
I completely stopped maturing in some areas in my teens and early 20s. Due to some experiences I won’t go into during my late 20s and early 30s, I aged rapidly mentally to being more like a 60 year old man in other areas.
I’m completely dead inside yet at the same time somehow still like a teenager that’s way too curious about the world. I guess you could say I’m fully aware of consequences, I just don’t care anymore.
100%. Stronger, more confident. Have never felt better at 35