I see a wide variety of comments with this one. Some people say “they’re not looking for something serious or have commitment issues” and others say “they just didn’t want YOU.” Do some people in the dating world truly have commitment issues? Or is it just an excuse?
My recent experience has me questioning this more. I (26F) was exclusive with a guy (24M) for 5 months. We had a whole routine where we’d go on dates every Tuesday and Friday, we had a strong physical and emotional connection, made future plans, and we texted all day everyday. He recently decided to move downtown with his (very single/player) older brother, and this made me push him to either officially commit to me or “be free and single with his brother.” (They lived at with their parents until now)
He decided that he wasn’t in a place to commit to something serious and that he’d always wanted to be single in a “fun city”, but if he was ready it would be with me because I’m the second person he’d felt this way about (he had a gf for 3 years before me who dumped him right after they moved home from college). He said that going into us dating he knew he didn’t want anything serious but I made him question what he originally had planned for his immediate future, but if he wasn’t 100% sure about it then he probably shouldn’t. Idk if he’s just BSing me and the thought of that hurts more.