I (18f) and my boyfriend (18m) have been dating for 2 months now and I really like him, but he drinks and smokes constantly. He tells me that he values my opinion and my thoughts of him, however, it often doesn't feel like it. I'm friends with most of the girls who work at my job (he also works there) and they text me when he comes in with his water bottle full of alcohol and it's bothering me a lot because he will smoke at the same time then drive half an hour to get home. I don't think he should be, but there's nothing I can do about him drinking at home. So I just want him to stop doing it outside of his house where he can and probably will get fired.
But anyways, I texted him yesterday and said, "You need to stop drinking at work." for context I text with emojis and usually more flair, so it was clear I was being serious. He responded "Whaaaat? Me drink? Neverrrr." And it really bothered me because I'm being serious about it and it's a serious issue that he needs to stop doing. Hes sweet when we're together and I enjoy dating him but I don't like what hes doing. After he sent that I responded, "I'm being serious." It was roughly 2pm when I said that, I followed up at 12:30 am with, "You never responded." And he still hasnt gotten back to me at all, we work at the same job and know a lot of the same people so I'm definitely going to see him soon and I'm worried he'll try to blow by all of it.
I don't want to break up with him because of it but at the same time it's a serious issue. I'm not sure what to do moving forward or how to approach the topic next time we talk.
Okay I just realized I forgot this, but because we work together it will be really awkward and I like my current job so I really don't want to quit. most of the guys there are good friends with him and his brother also works there