I’m looking for a male perspective! I was talking to a friend of mine about our dating app experiences. We are both in our thirties and have been on a similar amount of dates from the apps.
She told me she has NEVER had a guy offer to pay for her on date from a dating app. I was actually stunned, as I have actually never had a guy NOT offer to pay on a first date. From just a coffee to a full meal, the man has always offered to pay or rather, insisted. Even if I offer to split—no man has taken me up on it.
I’m curious how our experiences could be so different. Like, I would expect us both to have mixed results, and find it strange that it’s literally opposite. Is it just who we’re picking?
In what instance would you not offer to pay on a date? Do you always plan to split it? Is there something about the date that would change your mind? For me, as a woman, I will insist on splitting it if I already know I’m not really interested. I feel bad allowing someone to pay for me who I know I will not see again. But I wonder how that goes for the men?