Background:
My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. He went to law school in the UK (we are originally from Canada) and the law school system in UK is very different in the sense that they just that they have one final take-home essay at the end of the semester. And when he was in the UK, he basically did nothing for 3.5 months and in the last three days of when the essay is due he would spend day and night writing it. I didn’t like the way he did things and I hoped that when this essay came around that it would give him some type of reality check, but with his method, he passed all his exams and eventually graduated this law school.
Then when he came to Canada and had to do multiple exams here. I thought for sure he would develop some type of work ethic and he would learn in Canada what it means to actually study. But even in Canada, he did the same thing where three days before the exam is he would watch all of his lecture videos. And with that method he also passed those.
It’s been 1.5 years since he passed his exams and now he has to find a full-time articling position. He has been doing almost nothing in the 1.5 years. In the city that we live, there aren’t a lot of positions open, but I believe he doesn’t actually try his best to look/apply every day because he knows at the end of the day he will get a position. Either through his dad’s connections or through a loophole.
His older sister also did law school and became a lawyer in this way and for their parents because both of their kids are lawyers they opened up a law firm. And now my boyfriend doesn’t even have the stress to find a full-time job after this articling position because he will be running a law firm at the age of 24 along with his sister. Also to add is that he has zero debt to his name. Everything is paid off, the house he lives in, the nice cars they drive and the space for the law firm.
He has big dreams for himself and wants to earn a certain amount of money one day. So he is ambitious, but because of his work ethic and how his life just played out, I just feel like it’s not genuine since I come from a very middle class life where I had to work to get everything. And because he has zero stress and no actual work ethic until a deadline is near I just don’t look at his ambition as something real and I think if this type of lifestyle is meant for me? Because I want someone who is hard-working so I can teach my future kids to be too.
Will the reality check ever come or is his life just so privileged that this is his reality?