I(M 25) am seeing this girl(22). We both are classmates in our post-graduation. I got to know through my roommate that she likes me(my roommate’s gf is her roommate)(we all are classmates btw). So we started seeing each other. Now i have never been in a relationship before so i am really nervous and hesitant about all this(i got to know it’s her first relationship as well). Like at most of the time i don’t know what to do or what to say at what point of time. I told another friend of mine about all this(he had a gf before) and he guided me somewhat like i should send her romantic songs occasionally or i should bring flowers for her the next time i meet her and all stuff like that. The thing is it’s good he is telling me all this but i am really frustrated by the fact that why can’t i think of all this? Yeh sab mere dimaag mein kyon nhi aata? Mujhe kyon nhi pta lagta ki kab kya kehna chahiye, kya dena chahiye, kab kese behave karna chahiye? It’s not like i behave like some creep or despo around her(main hun bhi nhi vaisa btw). Also jab hum baat kar rhe hote hain toh bohot baar bus ‘or btao’ kahenge. Mujhe topic he nhi milta main or kya baat karu. Samaj he nhi aata or kya bolu. Or topic kahan se lau? The thing is i am annoyed by the fact that it doesn’t look like i am being my original self around her. Like i know i am posting here to get some advice but i feel like if everybody else will keep telling me what should i send her, what should i gift her and all stuff like that then where is my originality? Then i am not being me with her right? Or mujhe yeh sab aata nhi🙃😭. Mera dimaag pta nhi kyon nhi chalta inn maamlo mein. For another instance my roommate told me i can try holding her hand but his gf denied saying it would look creepy for now. Even i thought that but that’s the thing. I am getting advices but i don’t know what to do and most importantly what’s the right thing to do? Even her gf appreciated me when i gifted this girl flowers par voh main nhi hun mujhe toh kaha gya tha ki aisa karna or maine kiya😭. After all this i feel like i am not being genuine with her and i really wanna be my original and genuine self around her.