Been together with my bf for 1 year+. We have some up and downs but I cant help but feel there is something missing, like an incompatability gap. This is my first rs and I have definitely learned alot. BUT I cant help but feel envy when I look at other people's rs on social media. I know they only show the good side of their rs. I want to feel loved loudly and proudly and I want my partner to love me openly. My current does love me, I can sense he puts in effort in making me happy, but just not in a way which I was hoping for. I would prefer someone who loves me more than I love him, but he feels rs shld be equal. He isnt wrong, its just our differing POV.
I like to have matching items with my partner, BUT our tastes are so different. I like classic sneakers but he prefer wearing sporty shoes like salomon(?) , i wanted matching shirts but he cant find one he likes. i wanted matching profile pics but he says I am trying too hard and I felt offended by it, I turned cold to him and he didnt try to ask me more bout my feelings. I honestly feels the weariness we have such different taste and cant compromise. Can someone pls share stories on how they overcome this? Having matching shoes is such a cute things I would love to experience, but my current one cant fulfil this. But i do think breaking up over this small matters seems a bit childish. I am not thinking of breaking up atm.
Our view in life is so different, I am honestly starting to think if I am just settling for less. But at the same time, I feel I have to work on myself too. It is unhealthy to feel this way already, so can someone pls guide me?
Please do not flame me, I am just trying to seek advice and open my perspective. Thank you very much.
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Can just find someone else on the same page as you with regards to the topic at hand. I know easier said than done but this ain’t changing. This isn’t a fix it thingy.
Seems his stance is clear on the matchy matchy stuff, it’s a no. You can either be okay with that, or find someone who wants that. Also you want someone who loves you more than you love them? What a strange thing to say. You want an imbalanced relationship where you’re less emotionally invested than they are? You want to love your partner less than they love you? Interesting
This is how he is. There’s nothing we or you can say to change him. So you either accept him this way or you break up and find someone who cares about this kind of stuff as much as you do.