Update: I’ve blocked him on everything but I want to be with him so badly. I love the life we’ve built and I want to hope we can get past this. Am I being unrealistic and setting myself up for future hurt?
i found out my boyfriend ‘23M’ kissed another girl when he went out partying the other night. he also has substance abuse issues. We’ve been together 4 years. he turns into a different person when he drinks and loses his inhibition and ability to make good decisions, he’s been dealing with these issues for a while and hasn’t committed to getting help. he has a lot of past trauma that he hasn’t dealt with. he lied about the girl until i told him i already talked to her and know the truth. then he broke down and told me everything. i know he’s remorseful and i’ve never seen him break down like this. but can i ever gain this trust back? even if i forgive him do we have a future? i’m ‘22F’ and feel too young to be dealing with this. especially if he won’t get help for his substance abuse? please give advice
TLDR: boyfriend with substance issues kissed another girl