We (F30, M29) have been hanging out for three months. We started strong, with great mutuality, but now it feels like it’s regressing instead of progressing.
He has told me he’s dealing with anxiety related to trauma from his previous relationship, the mortgage he’s trying to get to buy a new house and leave his father’s, work issues as he works freelance, plus the fear of becoming too involved with me.
The result is that he still wants to hang out, whether I ask to or he does, and we end up spending the night together too, but there’s not much initiative from his side and no more physical contact and sex if I don’t initiate, but, I repeat, he stills wants to hang out and to sleep over.
I don’t know how to deal with it. I’m not getting what I want from this “relationship” (we’re not into one, not even exclusive on paper), but at the same time I can see he’s going through a lot (yes, he’s in therapy) and I don’t want to just “throw it away”.
Maybe he’s just not that into me and sees me more as a friend? But then he got upset when he found out I went on date with someone else, or he says it makes him angry not being able to commit, and blabla.
Help!