Im gonna keep this short but this was so much drama at the time. I promise to update the thread if i follow up on this.
I had this friend group and we were very close, we met this girl (Sarah) at uni and me and some friends became very close with her. She started coming to some parties with the whole friend group,(mine + my boyfriend’s)we would hang out at my then boyfriend’s house.
After a bit my exbf and his closest friends from the group started not liking Sarah, saying she was too inmature and making fun of her appearance. So my bf said she shouldn’t come anymore.
One day we made a party with some of the group and we didn’t invite her, to be fair she lived far and we only invited her like 4 times at this point to my bf’s, she got really angry.
I tried to mediate and omited the info that my bf didn’t like her so that’s why she wasn’t invited, i feel stupid for lying about that but I didn’t want to cause even more pain, I told her we only made a small gathering with people from the town, she thought I was lying to her and that I was the one that didn’t want her to come.
I didn’t know how to deal with the situation so I tried to stay away from the drama, i dealt very badly with confrontation and drama at the time, my other friends from uni were confused as well, it was tense, but we tried to make amends, but my uni friends ended up having a fight in which i didn’t take part, but Sarah said hurtful things so we would break apart the friend group, that was the last time we spoke with her.
After that, she closed all of her social media and changed usernames, changed her phone etc… i have her instagram though, because it popped up on “suggestions”
It’s been 6 years, I spoke with one of my friends from uni and we agreed we all were in the wrong, including sarah, but we appreciated her and have very fond memories with her, so I decided to reach out and apologize.
We don’t follow eachother on insta, so I believe the message ended in spam and she’s not going to see it unless she checks manually, or if I follow her and she accepts.
I am doubting following her so much because i feel its really violent, so I don’t know what to do, or ig it’s worth it, what should I do?
TL;DR: Had a fight with a friend 6 years ago, sent her a message on insta apologizing but its probably on hidden requests due to us not following eachother, doubting if following her might be too violent or if its even worth it.