We started as an online friendship, then after two years (half of it was a situationship) we met and began dating, mostly on her initiative. A year later, while I was in America, she suddenly broke up with me, saying she no longer had feelings. I was devastated, but after a year of no contact I reached out again. We started talking actively, though we couldn’t meet since I was still abroad and later busy with my diploma.
Things seemed fine until three months ago, when she began ghosting me. Then she texted me on my birthday, but the connection wasn’t the same. When I finally asked, she admitted she only kept talking out of guilt, and felt it should’ve ended earlier. About a month ago she met someone else and started a relationship.
She never cheated, she’s genuinely a good person, just closed off and with self-esteem/attachment issues. But now I feel even worse than last year. Media tells me to fight for her (the only thing left is showing up at her house), but she’s made it clear she doesn’t want that. My friends have all moved away after graduation, work doesn’t give me the right social circle, and keeping it inside only makes me worse — that’s why I’m here.
I still feel overwhelming love for her, and it hasn’t faded after all these years. Part of me knows I should move on, but another part desperately wants to try again. Has anyone been through this? How did you decide whether to chase or let go?
TL;DR: Long relationship ended, she started seeing someone else. I still love her deeply and don’t know whether to move on or try again.