- My classes
I’m a transfer student and most of the people in my classes have been going to my university for 3 to 4 years. I have a hard time connect with people in my courses. Even though plenty of people are nice they already have their established platonic and romantic relationships, so it’s hard to form any deep connections. I still try but I feel like if I push it any further I make some people uncomfortable. I’m fucking up scheduled programming. Romance wise every time a guy has caught my interest in my classes we’re already in a relationship. Also I see guys have their gfs as their home screens, and it’s genuinely so cute. My classes are pretty hard now, so everyone is just tryna lock in (me too but damn)
- Clubs
I’ve become active in a couple of clubs. It’s nice I feel myself getting closer to people and I love it. I also have 2 office positions in 2 different clubs. If I’m being honest flirting in clubs as a concept feels weird. I think the deeper you are in a club it comes off as weird to like try and flirt with someone. What if I make them uncomfortable? I want people to feel safe and comfortable. I haven’t actually been attracted to any of the guys in my orgs, so I doubt I’ll ever run into this issue. Well that’s not true, but I found out pretty early he has a partner so I got over it. I’m a straight woman and while one of my clubs isn’t a lgbt+ specific org a good amount of our membership is queer. There’s nothing wrong with this but if I actually wanted to find someone in that club the pool is pretty small when it comes to single attractive men that are also attracted to women (straight, bi, pan, etc.). I remember one time I went to national convention and the finest man I’ve ever seen was in attendance. I was social and got his Instagram BOOM beautiful gf 😞.
- Parties/bars/nightclubs
These just aren’t my vibe. I don’t really like parties and I usually have no one to go with. I would go to a party or club or something if I had friends to go with. It would be unsafe if I went out at night alone. I’m also a total dork, who would choose my apartment over a loud ass party any day.
- Online dating
Honestly only way I’ve ever actually gotten a date. I deleted all the apps tho. They’ve made me start have a negative view of myself. I also found my mental health declining. I have so many annoying dating stories, and honestly it’s time I pull the breaks. The problem is again this is the only avenue I find myself getting any tingle of attention.
Bruh I just want a cute college relationship where we spend our weekends together, study together, cuddle after stress days, etc. With the way things are going it looks like I’m just gonna graduate single, get a job, and get back on dating apps later on.