Everyone knows that dating sucks and that a majority of meetups or dates are not going to ultimately end up anywhere.
The real problem is people’s lack of communication, directness and humanity. Most will be completely fine stringing people along, acting like they give a fuck then just randomly ghost the moment it’s time to meet and/or get serious.
Its interesting because i’ve been very open and direct with some prospects, giving them openings and outs if they want to take them knowing i won’t get upset or take it personal. A lot of guys are not even willing to take that and would rather ghost even when its quite easy to say “yeah sorry i don’t really see this going anywhere” or whatever.
Sure i guess there is a subset of the population that goes apeshit and psychotic from people losing feelings or getting rejected and then that ruins it for everyone else who is able to handle it well and maturely.
It just really sucks when you give a guy openness and directness and they are unable to even give 10% of that to you as well. Whenever I’m losing interest or talking to someone i try to be upfront and actually treat them like a fucking human being, which i feel is almost foreign in the world of dating at this rate