I know, I should ask them. But I'd like to hear what other people think.
I often tell my female friends that I'm not looking to date now because I'm overweight. And they'll either say that "that doesn't matter", "it's all about personality" (can't show my personality in the first glance), "just be confident" (as if confidence is a switch), "you'll find a woman when you least expect it" (even though men are expected to approach), etc. etc.
I feel like they just want to make me feel good at the moment rather than give me support of my goals that will help me in the long run, that way they can also feel good and just go on with their day.
And no, I don't want the best looking, fittest, Instagram model woman — I just want a cute, nerdy girl of a healthy weight.
Am I being unreasonable? I am just trying to become who I want to attract. And not only that, but when I've lost weight 2 times… dude, it was such a joke to how easy it was. It literally felt like, having a toll pass where the drive is smooth and easy versus having no toll pass and having to deal with traffic, stoplights, etc.