Not the stuff that looks good on a resume or what gets applause from others but something real. Something small maybe, but meaningful. For me, it was finally reaching out to an old friend to apologize for something I should’ve said years ago. No one else will ever know about it, but it felt like lifting a boulder off my chest.
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That I am done pleasing other people. And start to care more about myself
I started to go to gym more often, drink more water and basically exercise haha
I’ve been working on renovating my backyard lawn. It’s been 5 or 6 straight weekends of anywhere from 6-12 hours each weekend of work, some of it pretty labor intensive (I’m fat and out of shape). This past weekend I dug a large tree ring around a big tree in the yard, and put mulch in the ring.
I’m proud of the work/process and am starting to see the visible results of the work, and that makes me proud too.
I finally started selling all my music shit. I haven’t used it in years, but getting rid of it felt like shoveling dirt onto my own coffin.
But it’s time. Guitars. Pedals. Amps. Microphones. Dad’s Telecaster stays. Everything else must go.
Taking a new job in a different career field.
Hoping to get my budget on track and get a side gig going for extra cash.
That i’ve becoming way more positive over the last few months
I decided to start lifting when I started grad school.
I’m about to graduate and can now do pull ups with 70lbs added on the weight belt. When I enrolled, I couldn’t do a single one.
That I spent the last 15 years working seven days a week and caring for my parents, even though they were abusive and cheated me financially. I went through a whirlwind, but I kept my honor and didn’t fall into my siblings’ trap of devaluing me. The same siblings that didn’t help me financially when I was supporting my parents.
In the end, I went through the meat grinder unscathed. It feels good.
No. I peaked in career, fitness and finances at 26. I’ve been downhill since.
I’ve been writing a lot. And I’m prototyping a fun little design project too.
Found out my ex is getting married and my immediate reaction was genuine happiness for her. Not something I needed to fake, or to tell myself I’m happy about to prove to the universe I was over it. I’m just genuinely over it and wish her the best
It can feel like all this self improvement stuff isn’t “doing” anything, and you can’t know whether it’s working until you’re tested. I can’t really talk about this anywhere else
Finally moved into my own apartment today.
Cutting out beer.
Improving, learning to feel my emotions, controlling my impulse, patience…
I bought a care home, and am making significant positive improvements to people’s lives, while improving my financial situation and providing great returns to my investors.
How far I’ve come & that she looks at me and tells me I’m a good man.
I got a lot of shit done today that I wanted. AND on my birthday – didn’t sit on my butt and drink (well, I did this afternoon/evening haha).
Losing weight and taking better care of myself. Lost 10 kgs so far
Being kind to the people that love me.
60 days alcohol free recently. Still being at the shitty ass second job couple weeks later.
I haven’t had a drink in 17 days now. Been trying to take a break.
I lost 40lbs down to 200lbs and my deadlift is at 475 and my squat is 410lbs currently.
48m Gym 6 days a week, sauna 3 times a week, just took myself and the two kids to Puerto Rico. Kicking ass at work.
Ive been getting back into hiking and backpacking. I made a goal to hike 30 miles a month and this month I’ve already hiked 50 miles. I also want to go on one more backpacking trip but I had a hard time on my last one in August because my sleeping gear wasn’t ideal and it’s only getting colder.
After 20 years of being a software and/or software adjacent engineer in the auto industry I landed a better compensated job as an electrical engineer in the utilities industry.
Hitting the gym pretty frequently and been prioritizing my health
Been helping my mom out at home with a lot of stuff she can’t handle anymore. I’ve repainted her living room, stained the deck, repaired her sink drain and even fixed her leaky faucets.
It’s a small set of things I can do to repay her for raising me
Untangling my brain and figuring things out. I finally feel like I can actually have the life I want for the first time in my life. It’s took years and tears, but it was worth it.
It’s only Monday and I got my ass cooked on the basketball court tonight by an alpaca in braces. How dare you shine that harsh light on my internal inadequacies so early in the week
I feel healthier than I ever have (at 52yrs old). I’m not at my peak nor am I a super model but I feel healthy and relaxed and more calm and sure of myself than i hsve in life.
I told the story before but (beyond several earlier times in my life where I almost died),.. the early alpha wave of covid19 hit me hard. March-April 2020 I spent 38 days in Hospital (16 of those days in ICU). Took me about 2 weeks to relearn how to walk again along with several months of oxygen tank and physical therapy. Bouncing back from that between June 2020 and June 2021, I walked 2,800 miles (averaging 7 to 10 miles a day). Longest streak on my Apple Watch is 512 days closing all 3 Rings every day.
In the 5 years or so since Covid19, I moved cross country for a new job that doubled my pay. The mental relief of getting out of old job, doubling my pay and being WFH has been a triple lift of healthier living.
I think most of my friends probably just saw me move away and go silent. But I’ve held down the new job for 2 years now and just living a quiet relaxing life. Its been great. I wanted to have $50k in the Bank by my 50th Birthday. Around $42k, so pretty close.
I had some accidents almost 5 years ago that laid me out for quite some time and changed how I moved.
Yesterday, I ran on a trail, in the rain until my heart wanted to explode. It felt so good to move beyond a snail’s pace again. I ran again today until one of my calves locked up. Okay, time to rest. LOL. People on the trail must have thought I was crazy, smiling and laughing as I silently relished in the ability move somewhat normally again.
Between this and weight lifting again, I’ve just been on a natural high.
39m. Last month i went on a date. The time before that was like 2018.
Not blaming myself for existing. If I have a problem with myself I try to figure out what’s causing it and address it instead of wasting time with dwelling on the current circumstance.
I know that i am a good hearted person. Someone today actually randomly told me ” have i told you i respect you” in regards to how i handle social situations at work. Made me feel pretty good
Being more proactive about my health. Specifically, getting a heart condition diagnosed and working on the treatment. I’m 73 and have never put on a hospital gown and it’s kind of humbling to deal with needles, echocardiograms, nuclear stress tests and having to get a stent.
I made it to Nationals in my sport (pole dancing) this year. I also did a 1-arm pull-up.
I suppose getting to nationals is something that kind of goes in the resume / applause type of category but it’s still the first thing that comes to mind for me. I never thought I would be a nationally competitive in anything let alone anything that required strength, flexibility and physicality.
I’m about to be a dad for the first time, and multiple people a have told me how lucky the kid is to have me as a dad. I’m not sure there’s a compliment I would appreciate more
I won.
Although I started from a family of privilege (academic, mostly), I made some bad decisions (romantic, mostly), but somehow fulfilled my big goals – three kids who are very good people, independent and good parents themselves, built my dream house and enough money to retire. I’m retired now, playing music on three gigging bands, still healthy, beautiful spouse and lots of time for my hobbies (music, woodworking, hiking, adventures, playing w grandkids). My stress level is so low now compared to when I was busting ass, having cheating spouses and trying to maintain through it all.
in my 50’s and setting new PB’s in the gym doesnt happen much anymore, so was very happy to hit a 100kg OHP after matching an old PB on bench. best bit was having my teenage son spotting the bench.
Down from 299lbs to 213lbs. I feel like a new person. Change in my diet, portion control, and Wegovy. Now I guess I need to start going to the gym.
In the best shape of my life and alcohol free for 3 years
Organized my garage more and work in it more. Took a leadership role in my son’s cub scout pack. I try to be less sentimental and dwell on things less and live in the moment. I have a semi-leadership role at work I have been well received in. It all started with deciding to start perpetual self improvement after I didn’t get a promotion at work that I deserved, a new guy with little experience got it by ass kissing. It’s nice to use a negative experience to find positive growth. Yes I’m still very bitter about ot, but silver linings.
I’ve helped three friends move in the last year. Having more hands to haul crap makes it so much smoother. Moving by yourself is one of the worst feelings.
I’m the only son that is taking care of my mom through a tough and long depressive crisis. I feel we’re finally getting out of it. My brothers didn’t do shit
I used to race in inline speedskating ( yes fancy super fast rollerblading) in the 2000s. I haven’t raced with conviction since 2004. Now that my kids are all in college and I have some free time, I trained hard this year and did the biggest inline speedskating marathon (26 miles) in the US in Duluth. MN two weeks ago. I far exceeded my expectations and did it in 1:26, averaging 18.4 mph at 55 years old. I am super happy about how I did overall, and also that I crushed the other people (aged 20s-40s) in my paceline when we sprinted for the finish. It was awesome