Especially if I don’t reciprocate, but even if I do tbh. I find it awkward and avoid it as much as I can. But I also tend to dislike the guy if I sense he likes me in some way, even if he did nothing wrong (no idea why).

Is this me being avoidant or something? I’ve been running from guys who were into me since forever.


7 comments

  1. Same with me….i mean I’ll be internally screaming that this isn’t the actual me. I always tend to avoid attachments cause i feel like no matter what happens, in the end it’s gonna leave me hurting

  3. I mean if you know someone fancies you and you dont like them back then yeah it makes sense that you might feel a bit uncomfortable tbh

  4. It can feel like a lot of pressure when you know someone likes you (and you’re not 1000% into them). You might be a bit avoidant, but what that means is you have to be picky and move slow. The right guy will be patient and consistent.

  6. This might be something to hash out over a few sessions of therapy. Discomfort is a fact of life, but if it’s preventing you from having normal relationships (not just “relationships” but friendships, acquaintances, etc.) and you think it’s holding you back, therapy might be helpful.

  7. When you don’t actually like the person, it’s fine. You’re just not attracted.

    When you to like the person and find them attractive, and then you distance yourself: it’s probably an avoidant strategy in order to not get close and be vulnerable.

    If you are doing it because of avoidant tendencies: You’ll need to look inward to determine why you do it because at the end of the day you’re pre-scuttling yourself from experiencing healthy intimacy (obviously you still need to vet partners for authenticity).

    If you can afford it: therapy. In the mean time I’ll mirror the advice everyone gives: you should read “attached” by Levine and heller.

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