I'm 30f, and my husband is 32m. We've been together for almost 15 years now, and have two kids (1/3). I have a best friend who just proposed to his girlfriend and I could not be happier for them. The problem is my marriage is falling apart and I can't help but be jealous.
My friend, we'll call him James, proposed to Cait yesterday. It was beautiful. He make her breakfast, waffles with toppings. Juice, bacon ECT. A whole nice thing. He took her to their first date location. He grabbed a buddy and had him take photos. After they proposed, James and Cait went out for a wine tasting and at home he had flowers waiting for her and a plushie with PJs and a blanket. They cuddled and watched movies all night
I got ….
A guy half assing it. He said he couldn't figure out the perfect way to ask. So what did he do? He was in his freaking boxers, talking in a stupid voice and I joked I would never marry a dork like him. Well he proposed. Then and there. With nothing to it. "Oh really? Well then …" And that was it. No celebration. No nothing.
Over the years it's just… He's never done anything romantic. Three years ago I told him I felt the romance was dead. That it has been too long since I've felt spoiled. Since 2015, I have organized 4 dream vacations for him. Countless times I've made him home made food, his favorites actually. I take him out all the time to movies for the newest one he wants to see. I am always doing things that he finds sweet. But he won't reciprocate. In 3 years he's cooked me a meal once. I don't mean like cooking anything. Anyone can make a box of Mac. It's not difficult. But he cooked me a steak he oversalted and over cooked once. Other than that the most effort I've gotten is scrambled eggs or ramen (instant)
I have told him blatantly I need more. I have made him every single year a huge birthday celebration. Last year I had to tell him our marriage depended on it for him to do something. He took me out skating and gave up after fifteen minutes while I skated alone.
I love him. I don't want to give up. But I'm about to. Seeing how James treated this proposal has me thinking: is this even worth it? I took him to ask his childhood dreams. He didn't even help me plan my kids birthday party. I dunno I feel alone
Tl:Dr
I haven't had romance from my man in years despite asking for it and my best friend just got engaged and honestly I'm wondering if it's the last straw.