For context, I (33f)'m currently dating my boyfriend from 3 years. Things are going well, but reality makes it so that our relationship has its ups and downs that we always try to work out, we're not in the honeymoon phase anymore but there is definitely love and affection. We are semi long-distance, and lately haven't been as close as we used to in terms of communicating etc.
Cue to a few days ago, met a random guy (30m)on a videogame online, started playing together and then chatting over voicecall online. He's funny, we talk about everything and anything, including from his love interest at work and lots of random stuff. At first I thought it was always me starting the convos but it's both ways around. And after a few days now my brain decided start being obsessed with him, I don't know what it is but I could describe that as infatuation : fluttery stomach, no appetite, randomly thinking about stuff we talked about all day, when going to sleep, when i wake up, almost kind of an anxiety feeling looming all the time. It feels just like what I thought was falling in love when I was younger. That guy's just such a flirt, quick witted, I swoon over his voice ( I don't even know his face), it's making me feel so many things and I'm so confused.
But the thing is I do not want anything more than being friends with this guy, I'm pretty reasonable and I know already we wouldn't be compatible on many very decisive points, and well I really love my boyfriend first and foremost and want us to work even if it takes some efforts, but I think that's how relationships move forward.
My whole point is, how do I regain some composure and stop these feelings from disturbing my in my daily life without just entierly cutting him off, because well I just enjoy talking with him.
TL;DR : I have a bf, don't want to leave him, talking with an online friend and started developing a crush for no objective reasons, just a gut attraction, and I don't want anything more than a gaming friend from him. How to calm down those feelings and not let it disturb my day to day?