Hey everyone,
My wife (35f) and me (38m) have been together for 19 years. We are highschool sweethearts. We have been married for 10 years and have a beautiful 3 year old daughter. Like most couple we didn't get along all the time, sometimes we fought pver small things, had great times and bad times, but the sex life used to be solid. But since our daughter was born our sex life became really bad. In the first year I didn't want to put any pressure on her because all her energy was focused on the baby. I kept working, trying to focus on the house chores, to help her out as much as possible and try not to nag her about sex. During the second year of our daughters life, sex was pretty rare (1 time per month) despite me trying to initiate it each couple of days. I did my best to be understanding and try to help her out as much as possible. I took them on vacations, took all of th earning responsibilities on myself, I bought us a house, I got us a brand new car, a maid that would help with the cleaning, did my best to work on myself, get in better shape, stop bad habits… All in the hope that it will better our sex life. I tried talking to her about it, and how I felt invisible and all of her attention was focused on the baby. She said she understood, that she try to make more of an effort but she doesn't. Days, weeks, months for by and we will have a quickie once per month, in that time she won't be focused on me, but somehow trying to get to the finish line as fast as possible. She doesn't let me go down on her, or try new poses or any type of sex games… For her sex feels more like a chore. Get it over with quick and let's relax in front of the tv or do something else. I love her very much, but I'm getting desperate. Im a very sexual person, I need it to link the emotional and physical aspect of our relation.
I don't know what to do.
I don't want to cheat or look elsewhere, I want her