Whether you’re already 30 or haven’t turned yet. I want to know how/if you ever get over this silly dreadful feeling.
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I didn’t feel any kind of way about it. It was just another age to me.
accepting I’m 30 feels good with lovely childrens and caring husband feels my 30+ age is complete
30 in 3 months. I feel pretty good about it. I’m slowly finding myself as a person and know what I like and don’t like. I still struggle with loneliness and depression on and off, but I imagine growing older will just continue giving me new experiences and lessons that I will enjoy having in my memory bank when I’m old as fuck. I like evolving my personality and learning and trying new things.
It’s been 4 months now. I cried on the day, I’m kinda used to it now.
I took divorce 4 months ago, moved back to my home country, and restarted my career… I turn 30 next month, but I am excited that I can go anywhere from here. I feel confident and hopeful that my 30s will be the best time of my life.
Turning 30 was pretty nice, but I’m enjoying my mid-30s much more.
I’m 29 years, 2 months old… I think I’d feel better about it if I had a partner.
Wasn’t bothered, being in your 30s is great. In my case I’ve got stronger relationships, more confidence, more financial security, my own house, established in career. All of which is allowing me to pursue new goals and I’m seeing the hard work of my 20s pay off. Life is great 😃
It’s terrifying me I have two years left of my 20s, I’ve achieved nothing.
I turn 30 at the end of the year. I have felt 30 since I was like 23. So I’m looking forward to it honestly lol
I feel okay but sometimes sad because I am not where I thought I’d be by the time I turn 30, so it feels a bit defeating and terrifying.
I’m turning 30 in a month and I feel….very lost and behind. I don’t know what I’m doing with my life. I did a degree in a field which I despise and can’t see a future in. I’m single (recently broke up after a 12 year relationship with the man I thought I’d be with forever). I’m uncertain about if I want children.
My current job is unstable and I’m worried all the time. I feel like I’m in a dark tunnel and can’t see the light at the end of it.
It’s not necessarily the big 3-0 that’s scaring me…but I think it’s just my life right now and the fact that I’m getting older while being stagnant. I think about other people in their 30’s like friends and strangers on the internet who all seem much more adult than I am.
That being said, I like who I am at this age more than I liked myself when I turned 20.
Maybe you intended this question to be asked to only those who are not yet 30, but I’ll still answer.
When I was coming up on turning 30, I was excited because I thought once I was 30 I would let go of all my body insecurities and be more accepting of my body – as if being 30 would magically flip a switch. That *didnt* happen. But what *did* happen is (now that I’m 35…) I became more sure of who I am as a person and more confident in my skills and abilities and being a “real adult” at work and in other areas of my life.
I also felt excited about turning 30 because I knew all the things I was looking forward to in my life would happen in my 30’s. I was in a new relationship with my now husband, and I knew we were heading towards marriage. And it ended up coming true! We got married and we are expecting our first baby in January.
Your 30’s are a wonderful time of growth.
I’m turning 29 soon and honestly have been having an existential crisis about turning 30.
I turned 30 this year and what bothered me more than anything was how fast my 20’s flew by.
I got carded going alone into a rated R movie last night. I’m 33. It’s chill.
It was tough turning 30 as I was looking after my husband who was 31 when he was diagnosed with brain cancer. I’m 36 now, and it’s taken its time to heal from the greatest loss of my life. I’ll never be the same again, but grateful for every day that I am alive past 33. As long as I’m breathing and healthy, there’s always a way to deal with problems in life. Nothing ever feels too tough for me anymore. I feel like I can handle anything. I don’t think anything else can hurt me as much anymore so it does give me plenty of perspectives. It’s both good and bad. It makes me feel less empathetic towards “lesser problems” in life and I just have to bite my tongue each time when friends confide about their problems that seem so easy to fix from my POV but I just do my best to be a listener and offer solutions if they ask for it. Otherwise, whatever.
I LOVED IT!! I celebrated by buying myself a boudoir photo session with a local photographer. No one but me has really seen those photos but I love them. It’s also an age where people start to take you seriously in your life choices (they absolutely should before then, but such is life).
Being in my 30’s has been the best internally. I’m
More sure of who I am, what I want, my choices, how I spend my time, etc.
Start lifting weights, using retinol and sunscreen NOW if you haven’t already.
I loved my 30’s! I had less drama in my life and wasn’t as immature as my 20’s. Had a great apartment. I was in great shape and so happy being single and dating around. You miss that stuff when you’re in 40’s and settled down.
Enjoy your 30’s. They’re the best!
You know the bo burnham song I’m turning 30, I listened to it a lot at the time
I loved it so much, I keep turning 30, every year since.
i’m 27 at the moment and i’m not sure what it is, but i have this electrifying excitement regarding turning 30. All the best women i know right now who i look up to are in their 30s; it’s so inspiring to me that i can be anyone i want to be and do anything i want to do in my 30s unlike the lies we’ve been told that women “expire” after 30
Turning 29 was hard, as I realized my 20s were coming to an end.
Turning 30, though, was fantastic. I felt like my life was just starting, and my 30s have been my best years by far.
I was tweaking out about it for a while, but now I’m turning 30 in 3-ish months, and i don’t care anymore.
I’m excited! My teen years and early twenties were filled with so much self doubt. My late 20s have been amazing; my life and view of myself has just gotten better and better with each year. Thanks to lots of inner work and rejecting all the -isms we are taught to believe.
i turned 30 in june and i was dreadingggg it and i still hate it 🙁 nothing groundbreaking happens but i definitely feel older and freaked out by it
Stressed about turning 30 my whole late 20’s (especially since the last 2 years of my 20’s were in the pandemic) – but then turned 30 and actually loved it. You get this special kind of clarity some time in your early 30’s – and it made me realise as long as I take care of my health and my appearance, age doesn’t need to stop me achieving my goals.
I am scared
I actually really loved it. a fresh decade! Closed out the 20s and threw that book out the window!
Turning 32 soon and I think the only reason I “cared” about 30 is because I feel “behind”. I had a very traumatic experience at 20 and then was in an abusive relationship following that for most of my 20s. I’m finally in school now and figuring it all out in the sense of “typical” life path. however on the positive side I feel like I know myself better now than I ever have, and I am more “me” than I have ever been. I think thats the best thing about getting older is feeling rooted in who we are.
30ies are amazing, I looked the best mid 30ies. Now I’ll be 38 and I slowly start having old people issues and therefor the 40ies scare me. 30ies are amazing!!!
I was excited. I’d lost my previous job in the spring, and had a start date for a new one the Monday after my birthday. I’d just moved to a new city, with my partner of a year who I feel confident I’m going to marry. It felt like everything from my 20s had come to a close, and my 30s were wide open with opportunities. Some other shit hit the fan the first week after my birthday that threw a lot of my old friendships into question, but ultimately it also highlighted the strength of my familial relationships and the friendships I built in my late 20s. At the end of the day, it feels like a clean slate, a new chapter, possibly even a new book.
I was excited about it. My twenties were a rough time so thirty felt like a fresh start. Like the ultimate New Years. I’m 32 now and still thankful to be out of my twenties.
Defeated at 31, turning 32 at the end of October.
Spent 20s stuck as a caregiver to a parent who only just got into long term care in my province. Lost my 5 year relationship with a person I’ve known for 7. Lost my soul dog in the same period of about a week as all this happened. Watching the last two age and fear being entirely alone.
emotions are a rollercoaster and I want to be better than I was. Realized the ptsd from growing up in abuse and then working in abusive situations when I was both the aggressor and the victim. Days are hard and I just keep trying to restart the next day and do that over and over again until I’m hoping my brain stops playing it all back on repeat or I’m dead, I guess ✨
Scared. Unmarried, no kids, currently unemployed after moving to a new country. Expected more stability at 30. Wanted kids since I was a teen. Overall feel very unhappy.
I thought i would end it at 30. I was convinced I was done by that age. I was tired. Met my husband at 29. Im 37 now.
Someone allowed me to be an adult and that person needs to get fired
For me it felt like the end of the world and really old. I made myself so miserable at the thought of it. Thankfully I soon got over that nonsense and got on with my life. Thirty years later, I’d kill to feel like 30 again!
I was depressed when I turned 30 because I felt like I was behind in life and I was stressed about the ridiculous (and very untrue) rhetoric of a woman “expiring” at 30. Now I’m 35 and wish I had celebrated more back then, however I will say I have more great things in my life now than I did then!
I actually started to care less and focus more on myself that’s why I like the 30s
I was really really dreading thirty. I feel like life is moving so quickly and I still feel so unsure about what I want to do with it.
I decided to make the most of my 30th birthday and spent it traveling in a new country which helped me feel less sad on the day of.
The one sentiment I got from all the women in my life is that 30 was their favorite year/decade. I still feel concerned that this decade won’t live up to the hype but I have been so much more intentional in planning things for myself and staying busy. I made a big bucket list of things I wanted to do and have been checking in often to stay motivated to cross things off the list. Basically, I’m working really hard to make sure it does live up to the hype.
I turned 31 a couple weeks ago and didn’t have any sad feelings at all, so I think I’m doing okay :).
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I didn’t feel any kind of way about it. It was just another age to me.
accepting I’m 30 feels good with lovely childrens and caring husband feels my 30+ age is complete
30 in 3 months. I feel pretty good about it. I’m slowly finding myself as a person and know what I like and don’t like. I still struggle with loneliness and depression on and off, but I imagine growing older will just continue giving me new experiences and lessons that I will enjoy having in my memory bank when I’m old as fuck. I like evolving my personality and learning and trying new things.
It’s been 4 months now. I cried on the day, I’m kinda used to it now.
I took divorce 4 months ago, moved back to my home country, and restarted my career… I turn 30 next month, but I am excited that I can go anywhere from here. I feel confident and hopeful that my 30s will be the best time of my life.
Turning 30 was pretty nice, but I’m enjoying my mid-30s much more.
I’m 29 years, 2 months old… I think I’d feel better about it if I had a partner.
Wasn’t bothered, being in your 30s is great. In my case I’ve got stronger relationships, more confidence, more financial security, my own house, established in career. All of which is allowing me to pursue new goals and I’m seeing the hard work of my 20s pay off. Life is great 😃
It’s terrifying me I have two years left of my 20s, I’ve achieved nothing.
I turn 30 at the end of the year. I have felt 30 since I was like 23. So I’m looking forward to it honestly lol
I feel okay but sometimes sad because I am not where I thought I’d be by the time I turn 30, so it feels a bit defeating and terrifying.
I’m turning 30 in a month and I feel….very lost and behind. I don’t know what I’m doing with my life. I did a degree in a field which I despise and can’t see a future in. I’m single (recently broke up after a 12 year relationship with the man I thought I’d be with forever). I’m uncertain about if I want children.
My current job is unstable and I’m worried all the time. I feel like I’m in a dark tunnel and can’t see the light at the end of it.
It’s not necessarily the big 3-0 that’s scaring me…but I think it’s just my life right now and the fact that I’m getting older while being stagnant. I think about other people in their 30’s like friends and strangers on the internet who all seem much more adult than I am.
That being said, I like who I am at this age more than I liked myself when I turned 20.
Maybe you intended this question to be asked to only those who are not yet 30, but I’ll still answer.
When I was coming up on turning 30, I was excited because I thought once I was 30 I would let go of all my body insecurities and be more accepting of my body – as if being 30 would magically flip a switch. That *didnt* happen. But what *did* happen is (now that I’m 35…) I became more sure of who I am as a person and more confident in my skills and abilities and being a “real adult” at work and in other areas of my life.
I also felt excited about turning 30 because I knew all the things I was looking forward to in my life would happen in my 30’s. I was in a new relationship with my now husband, and I knew we were heading towards marriage. And it ended up coming true! We got married and we are expecting our first baby in January.
Your 30’s are a wonderful time of growth.
I’m turning 29 soon and honestly have been having an existential crisis about turning 30.
I turned 30 this year and what bothered me more than anything was how fast my 20’s flew by.
I got carded going alone into a rated R movie last night. I’m 33. It’s chill.
It was tough turning 30 as I was looking after my husband who was 31 when he was diagnosed with brain cancer. I’m 36 now, and it’s taken its time to heal from the greatest loss of my life. I’ll never be the same again, but grateful for every day that I am alive past 33. As long as I’m breathing and healthy, there’s always a way to deal with problems in life. Nothing ever feels too tough for me anymore. I feel like I can handle anything. I don’t think anything else can hurt me as much anymore so it does give me plenty of perspectives. It’s both good and bad. It makes me feel less empathetic towards “lesser problems” in life and I just have to bite my tongue each time when friends confide about their problems that seem so easy to fix from my POV but I just do my best to be a listener and offer solutions if they ask for it. Otherwise, whatever.
I LOVED IT!! I celebrated by buying myself a boudoir photo session with a local photographer. No one but me has really seen those photos but I love them. It’s also an age where people start to take you seriously in your life choices (they absolutely should before then, but such is life).
Being in my 30’s has been the best internally. I’m
More sure of who I am, what I want, my choices, how I spend my time, etc.
Start lifting weights, using retinol and sunscreen NOW if you haven’t already.
I loved my 30’s! I had less drama in my life and wasn’t as immature as my 20’s. Had a great apartment. I was in great shape and so happy being single and dating around. You miss that stuff when you’re in 40’s and settled down.
Enjoy your 30’s. They’re the best!
You know the bo burnham song I’m turning 30, I listened to it a lot at the time
I loved it so much, I keep turning 30, every year since.
i’m 27 at the moment and i’m not sure what it is, but i have this electrifying excitement regarding turning 30. All the best women i know right now who i look up to are in their 30s; it’s so inspiring to me that i can be anyone i want to be and do anything i want to do in my 30s unlike the lies we’ve been told that women “expire” after 30
Turning 29 was hard, as I realized my 20s were coming to an end.
Turning 30, though, was fantastic. I felt like my life was just starting, and my 30s have been my best years by far.
I was tweaking out about it for a while, but now I’m turning 30 in 3-ish months, and i don’t care anymore.
I’m excited! My teen years and early twenties were filled with so much self doubt. My late 20s have been amazing; my life and view of myself has just gotten better and better with each year. Thanks to lots of inner work and rejecting all the -isms we are taught to believe.
i turned 30 in june and i was dreadingggg it and i still hate it 🙁 nothing groundbreaking happens but i definitely feel older and freaked out by it
Stressed about turning 30 my whole late 20’s (especially since the last 2 years of my 20’s were in the pandemic) – but then turned 30 and actually loved it. You get this special kind of clarity some time in your early 30’s – and it made me realise as long as I take care of my health and my appearance, age doesn’t need to stop me achieving my goals.
I am scared
I actually really loved it. a fresh decade! Closed out the 20s and threw that book out the window!
Turning 32 soon and I think the only reason I “cared” about 30 is because I feel “behind”. I had a very traumatic experience at 20 and then was in an abusive relationship following that for most of my 20s. I’m finally in school now and figuring it all out in the sense of “typical” life path. however on the positive side I feel like I know myself better now than I ever have, and I am more “me” than I have ever been. I think thats the best thing about getting older is feeling rooted in who we are.
30ies are amazing, I looked the best mid 30ies. Now I’ll be 38 and I slowly start having old people issues and therefor the 40ies scare me. 30ies are amazing!!!
I was excited. I’d lost my previous job in the spring, and had a start date for a new one the Monday after my birthday. I’d just moved to a new city, with my partner of a year who I feel confident I’m going to marry. It felt like everything from my 20s had come to a close, and my 30s were wide open with opportunities. Some other shit hit the fan the first week after my birthday that threw a lot of my old friendships into question, but ultimately it also highlighted the strength of my familial relationships and the friendships I built in my late 20s. At the end of the day, it feels like a clean slate, a new chapter, possibly even a new book.
I was excited about it. My twenties were a rough time so thirty felt like a fresh start. Like the ultimate New Years. I’m 32 now and still thankful to be out of my twenties.
Defeated at 31, turning 32 at the end of October.
Spent 20s stuck as a caregiver to a parent who only just got into long term care in my province. Lost my 5 year relationship with a person I’ve known for 7. Lost my soul dog in the same period of about a week as all this happened. Watching the last two age and fear being entirely alone.
emotions are a rollercoaster and I want to be better than I was. Realized the ptsd from growing up in abuse and then working in abusive situations when I was both the aggressor and the victim. Days are hard and I just keep trying to restart the next day and do that over and over again until I’m hoping my brain stops playing it all back on repeat or I’m dead, I guess ✨
Scared. Unmarried, no kids, currently unemployed after moving to a new country. Expected more stability at 30. Wanted kids since I was a teen. Overall feel very unhappy.
I thought i would end it at 30. I was convinced I was done by that age. I was tired. Met my husband at 29. Im 37 now.
Someone allowed me to be an adult and that person needs to get fired
For me it felt like the end of the world and really old. I made myself so miserable at the thought of it. Thankfully I soon got over that nonsense and got on with my life. Thirty years later, I’d kill to feel like 30 again!
I was depressed when I turned 30 because I felt like I was behind in life and I was stressed about the ridiculous (and very untrue) rhetoric of a woman “expiring” at 30. Now I’m 35 and wish I had celebrated more back then, however I will say I have more great things in my life now than I did then!
I actually started to care less and focus more on myself that’s why I like the 30s
I was really really dreading thirty. I feel like life is moving so quickly and I still feel so unsure about what I want to do with it.
I decided to make the most of my 30th birthday and spent it traveling in a new country which helped me feel less sad on the day of.
The one sentiment I got from all the women in my life is that 30 was their favorite year/decade. I still feel concerned that this decade won’t live up to the hype but I have been so much more intentional in planning things for myself and staying busy. I made a big bucket list of things I wanted to do and have been checking in often to stay motivated to cross things off the list. Basically, I’m working really hard to make sure it does live up to the hype.
I turned 31 a couple weeks ago and didn’t have any sad feelings at all, so I think I’m doing okay :).