Just like the title says I am so tired of this. I’m 27F in a large metro area – a few months ago I talked to a guy who lead me on for months that we were heading towards a relationship, just to break things off with me three days after we became exclusive.
I started seeing another guy about a month ago and he broke up with me yesterday for the most confusing reasons I’ve ever heard in my life. From what I gathered from his text messages since he wouldn’t get on the phone with me, he essentially felt guilty for sleeping with me and somehow spun onto me to make it my fault. Basically we had a date scheduled for the weekend, I invited him over for a glass of wine during the week at the last minute and one thing lead to another. In the morning he told me he had to cancel our date for the weekend and I told him I didn’t like that he waited until after we hooked up to tell me that – it made me feel a bit used. It wasn’t the end of the world but I wanted to tell him that. Basically he hated how that made him feel, went into this weird manic spiral over text message and ended things with me the next day.
I’ve been trying to get him to talk to me with no luck. I feel like everyone is so conflict-avoidant these days when it comes to dating. This could have been resolved with a conversation and I’m just so confused. This keeps happening to me over and over again and it’s so confusing. I’m so tired of it and I’m so discouraged I want to cry