What is the most challenging thing for you guys when it comes to the use of dating apps? Is it messaging, getting matches, setting up dates, etc, all three at the same time?

If you do have challenges or trouble, do you take feedback from other people to see what can be done better and have you utilized that feedback effectively? Did it change anything, or did the experience remain relatively the same from when you didn’t change your profile?

Did you pay for the apps? Did that improve your experience or did it remain the same?

I’m looking for some insights and a discussion.


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  2. I paid for it, to change locations and find better men than in my area.

    1. Matching without reading profiles. Im very transparent on my profile. And sometimes people don’t read and end up judging me. Like dude, dont swipe if you don’t know what you’re getting at. But yeah nobody read profiles these days… its just doom swiping.
    2. Matches but no messages. Maybe it depends on the country. I do get alot of messages from france and Scandinavian countries, but in italy none at all.
    3. Serious people to date. So far its been 3 weeks. Ive found one person, but im not even sure if he’s really serious sometimes. Haha everybody just want casual talk or sex talk. One guy, i said im not here to flirt, and he said well nvm then. Lol some guys just expects you to flirt with them out of the blue. Insane.

  3. For me it’s even getting a match. As a guy it’s near on impossible. Then if you do get a match, the person doesn’t always text back, so it can be quite frustrating as a guy!

  4. My situation is that they are all good people, but some or most of them are not ready or should not even be dating.

  5. Hookups are a big part of it. For me honestly it was all of the ghosting. Even as a woman I was having so many matches just never talk to me past a few messages. It made me feel like I’d done something wrong, even though that’s not necessarily the case. Sometimes people just don’t vibe with you that quickly…. I’m not sure how to judge it that soon personally though lol

  7. For me, hardest part is constantly being approached by people who are strictly looking for long term serious dating only.

    I personally just don’t think the apps work that way, I think they’re simply a casual way to meet new people. While I believe relationships can eventually turn serious and long term after getting to know each other over time, that expectation from the moment that we match is very off-putting.

  8. I definitely do not pay for dating apps. Idk if it’s a challenge but the most annoying part are the dudes who have zero real interest in hanging out and are just on the apps for validation. People who maybe do want to hangout but never ask. People who don’t read profiles. People with horrible profiles.

  9. Getting matches. I’m a dude so this is the biggest hurdle. Once I get a match I have a high success rate of getting a date. I get about 1 match a month at best.

  12. For me, the biggest challenge isn’t getting matches but filtering for genuine compatibility.

    I tend to prefer quality over quantity. I’d rather have fewer conversations with women who are an 8+/10 fit than spread myself thin.

    Messaging is also a tricky balance: I lead with sexual polarity and directness, but calibrating tone so it excites without overwhelming takes a lot of energy.

    Honestly, the apps don’t showcase my real strengths (presence, humour, in-person energy), so I often find the digital-to-IRL translation the hardest part.

  13. The most challenging part is that you are disposable. You are treated like an Amazon package: unwrapped, glanced at, maybe tried once. Good fit? Hmmmm… not really, next please. Wait a second, this one is alright, so I’ll stick with them for a while. Luckily, a 30-day return policy applies. Or any-day return policy, really. While this one is in the basket, I’ll keep shopping; maybe I can find something even better. The best part? You do not pay for anything. They pay. Well, except I’m spending my time and a few scraps on makeup, but that is mostly it. Wonderful thing, dating apps, aren’t they?

  14. Ghosting

    Flaking

    Matching and then unmatching

    People with attitude problems

    People using the apps to get over their exes

    People using the apps for entertainment

    Catfishers

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