So I (34F, single 2 years) started chatting with someone (34M) a few weeks ago. We met up the next day, which I thought was awesome. Helps to keep the momentum going instead of "oh let's schedule coffee three wednesdays from now." The date goes amazingly well! We have great conversation, plenty in common, and the attraction is definitely there. We kiss at the end of the night and both of us go home grinning.
Three weeks later we've seen each other for another 5 dates, including one sleepover (which also goes amazingly 🔥). We acknowledge that we're both crushing pretty hard. It's easy and very cute. I'm definitely aware that we are moving quickly, and while I'm not ready to say we're "official", I do let other folks I was talking with know that I'm developing feeling for someone else.
Then I change my relationship status. And the next morning I wake up to a message from a random girl warning me about him and his behavior – how he cheated on his ex wife, manipulated another ex, ghosted her, etc etc.
I'm not passing judgment on him based on this random message; I'm going to talk with him about it and not jump to any conclusions. And I would absolutely rather know the truth than stay ignorant. But just came here to say…
CAN WE NOT HAVE EVEN ONE DAY TO ENJOY THINGS?!
Like…dating is so freaking hard. Remaining open and trusting in this world is exhausting. I got all of 24 hours to enjoy this feeling before I have to put the defensive armor back on. UGH.