What’s the most valuable lesson heartbreak has ever taught you?
September 19, 2025
What’s the most valuable lesson heartbreak has ever taught you?
33 comments
Not everyone is going to support or show up for you the way you do for others. Evaluate who you give more to and if they don’t reciprocate, cut them out of your life. Your peace is more priceless than the cost of history.
That I’m enough. No man can give me what I truly need. And I need to learn to live with that.
To not love someone so much to the point where you are enabling their behaviour, or compromising parts of yourself to be with them. The right person will value your values and honour them
08:12 19/09 fri
Actions speak louder than words, and once consistently those words don’t match up trust fades away. And we deserve better someone who is transparent instead of making false promises
08:13 fri
Do not get attached. Everything is temporarily in this world and just enjoy the moment
That i should have been good looking else not to bother anyone by showing i have feelings be it crush, care or more.
Basically that i need to be at my place, invisible and alone.
That sometimes they can be the perfect person, we can be perfect together, have excellent communication, value and respect each other, have amazing sex, our families can be supportive, want the absolute best for each other, be compatible and it can still not be enough.
Love is actually a miracle. And I’m lucky to have been loved and to love.
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If he wanted to, he would. Words are really nice to hear, but actions are what matter.
You can’t live your life for someone else. You need to build a life that is fulfilling on your own.
What’s worse than being alone? Being with someone who makes you feel like you’re alone. Don’t do it. Protect your peace.
A broken heart is a broken expectation of what your future looks like. The faster you focus on a new/different future, the faster you heal
As a young one, I learned that I need to love myself first 🙂
That it’s better to be loved as who I am than to be loved as someone else I’m pretending to be, just to please them, just to “maintain the peace”. No. We have to deal with conflicts should they arise instead of trying to avoid or escape from them.
That I’m stronger and more capable than I think.
Rejection will happen, and that’s fine. It’s not an indication of a lack of your value, but of what they’re looking for, and everyone is allowed to look for something specific without you taking it personally. It did SO much for me. This goes for relationship, jobs, education etc.
Also specifically for romantic relationship: to not pedestalise someone do much that you lose yourself. They’re not better than you, you just have a lack, or a gap in your self esteem, so you make them important, always prioritise them, so they never leave. But when you abandon yourself in the process, everyone will always leave. No one wants someone who does that.
Just don’t over love them
And you’ll be happy
To always put oneself first. No one’s gonna make someone else a priority, why should you?
that love alone isn’t enough, you need compatibility and respect.
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You are not defined by someone else — your worth, your story, and your future are yours to rebuild.
love is not enough.
A guy knows what and who he wants. It does not take years for him to figure out if he wants to marry you or not. At that point you are just kept as a convenience until the person he really wants comes around
The “right” person for you, is not the person who has to consistently apologize for letting you down. No matter how much they love you and how deeply you know they love you. The “right” person for you WILL show up for you in the right ways.
That every heartbreak brings you one step closer to finding the one that you will spend the rest of your life with.
Know your worth.
That I’m not too much for the right person.
Don’t compromise your lifestyle because someone lied to you about theirs.
don’t date assholes and don’t accept how poorly they treat you. There are better men out there than these cave goblins
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That love isn’t always enough, and you need to choose yourself first.
Never put anyone else before yourself
That healing isn’t about forgetting the person, it’s about remembering yourself. Heartbreak forces you to rebuild, and sometimes that version of you is stronger, wiser, and more resilient than before
33 comments
Not everyone is going to support or show up for you the way you do for others. Evaluate who you give more to and if they don’t reciprocate, cut them out of your life. Your peace is more priceless than the cost of history.
That I’m enough. No man can give me what I truly need. And I need to learn to live with that.
To not love someone so much to the point where you are enabling their behaviour, or compromising parts of yourself to be with them. The right person will value your values and honour them
08:12 19/09 fri
Actions speak louder than words, and once consistently those words don’t match up trust fades away. And we deserve better someone who is transparent instead of making false promises
08:13 fri
Do not get attached. Everything is temporarily in this world and just enjoy the moment
That i should have been good looking else not to bother anyone by showing i have feelings be it crush, care or more.
Basically that i need to be at my place, invisible and alone.
That sometimes they can be the perfect person, we can be perfect together, have excellent communication, value and respect each other, have amazing sex, our families can be supportive, want the absolute best for each other, be compatible and it can still not be enough.
Love is actually a miracle. And I’m lucky to have been loved and to love.
[removed]
If he wanted to, he would. Words are really nice to hear, but actions are what matter.
You can’t live your life for someone else. You need to build a life that is fulfilling on your own.
What’s worse than being alone? Being with someone who makes you feel like you’re alone. Don’t do it. Protect your peace.
A broken heart is a broken expectation of what your future looks like. The faster you focus on a new/different future, the faster you heal
As a young one, I learned that I need to love myself first 🙂
That it’s better to be loved as who I am than to be loved as someone else I’m pretending to be, just to please them, just to “maintain the peace”. No. We have to deal with conflicts should they arise instead of trying to avoid or escape from them.
That I’m stronger and more capable than I think.
Rejection will happen, and that’s fine. It’s not an indication of a lack of your value, but of what they’re looking for, and everyone is allowed to look for something specific without you taking it personally. It did SO much for me. This goes for relationship, jobs, education etc.
Also specifically for romantic relationship: to not pedestalise someone do much that you lose yourself. They’re not better than you, you just have a lack, or a gap in your self esteem, so you make them important, always prioritise them, so they never leave. But when you abandon yourself in the process, everyone will always leave. No one wants someone who does that.
Just don’t over love them
And you’ll be happy
To always put oneself first. No one’s gonna make someone else a priority, why should you?
that love alone isn’t enough, you need compatibility and respect.
[removed]
You are not defined by someone else — your worth, your story, and your future are yours to rebuild.
love is not enough.
A guy knows what and who he wants. It does not take years for him to figure out if he wants to marry you or not. At that point you are just kept as a convenience until the person he really wants comes around
The “right” person for you, is not the person who has to consistently apologize for letting you down. No matter how much they love you and how deeply you know they love you. The “right” person for you WILL show up for you in the right ways.
That every heartbreak brings you one step closer to finding the one that you will spend the rest of your life with.
Know your worth.
That I’m not too much for the right person.
Don’t compromise your lifestyle because someone lied to you about theirs.
don’t date assholes and don’t accept how poorly they treat you. There are better men out there than these cave goblins
[removed]
That love isn’t always enough, and you need to choose yourself first.
Never put anyone else before yourself
That healing isn’t about forgetting the person, it’s about remembering yourself. Heartbreak forces you to rebuild, and sometimes that version of you is stronger, wiser, and more resilient than before