A lot of people say guys know their intentions with a woman straight away. So, what would make you hesitant or delay making her your girlfriend? What are factors that would hold you back?
Please don’t answer with ‘because I don’t really like her’… Obviously you like her to some extent if you’re already dating
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Not a guy but I’ve heard this answer in response to the hesitation of going from ‘seeing each other’ to official and from dating to married – ‘I don’t want to complicate it if things don’t work out’. They seem to think that adding the label is what will make the breakup hard, of course with divorce there’s tangible consequences but ignoring that.
In my opinion people are delusional if they think that there’s a difference between being with someone for 6 months unlabelled, and being with someone for 6 months +1 day where they call each other gf/bf. The pain isn’t tied to the relationship status, it’s widely agreed that a situationship ending hurts more than a (short term) relationship breakup
No real answer there without knowing context of the relationship. I would say just talk to the person about what it is you want, maybe ask if there’s anything they want to talk about in regard to where your guys future is going. A relationship is all about being able to talk to the person and figure things out before they become problems. When I first got in a relationship it’s all new and there’s no person there telling you when to kiss for the first time or hold hands. I hadn’t kissed her on the third date and my “girl” friends at work said I needed to kiss her soon or she would get bored and stop talking to me. That put so much pressure on the situation and it wasn’t that I didn’t want to kiss her, I just didn’t know how or when really. All this to say, he could be nervous or have some reservations and you will never know until you just ask. It would probably put both of you at ease and let you know where you guys stand.
I’m currently casually dating someone that I can really see a future with. We just click.
What’s stopping me from asking to ‘make it official’? I’m too closely removed from my last relationship. I still think about my ex a lot and feel I’d be entering the relationship with baggage. The baggage is mine to sort, not hers. I’m also trying to follow the advice of my therapist by just trying to live for me right now.
It depends on the relationship. In my last one, the discrepancy was kids. She didnt want them, I wasn’t sure if I did. So I wanted to take things at a slowish pace to see if she was someone I thought I could have a fulfilling childless life with. I decided she was, and it took about 2 months. We talked about getting more serious, she was down for it. Then she dumped me a week later lmao.
It ain’t on just the guy to move it forward