My friend tells me that almost all male dumpers try to open the door of communication with the dumpee, after ending their new relationship, mostly because of lust and the need for validation. She tells me to not feel flattered that my dumper is trying to get my attention now and that he is only looking for sex.
Male dumpers out there, is this true that most of the time it’s not about the male dumper genuinely missing the dumpee but only about sex?
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I’d say yes, every guy that has ended things with me came back.
More than once I’ve let an ex bf back into my life and I thought it was cuz he missed my company, but it turned out to be something else.
Its actually how both men and women work, not everyone but people do miss the past when the relationship was not that bad.
They get lonely, they start thinking about the past, most of the time, the good parts of the relationship.
Then they get back together, try it again till the next time they get reminded why they ended it the first time.
Some want to reconnect because they thought the grass was greener.
Some just want sex. I know a few ladies who stayed because the sex was really good and then eventually broke it off but kept it casual just for the sex.
Personal rule of thumb. Once you end the relationship, there is no going back.
I can’t speak for other men, only for myself. If I were to try to “reconnect” with a woman I’ve dumped, it’d be specifically because I miss **her** (not just the sex), and want to try to rekindle the relationship and solve whatever brought me to the point of dumping her, in the first place.
Would me missing the sex be part of that equation? Possibly. I am human, after all, so to say the sex wouldn’t be a part of it, would be a lie. However, the sex (for me; again, not speaking for other men) wouldn’t be the only reason, nor the main one.
The fact that I would even (hypothetically) make the attempt to rekindle a relationship with someone I dumped, would mean that there was something there (outside of just sex) that I missed, and/or reflected on, and wanted to try to solve it and make up with her. However, it would have to be something very special (in the case of me missing something) or been something very trivial (in the case of me reflecting on something), for me to even consider the idea of “opening the door” back up.
Yes
It’s a power trip. They do it to prove to themselves that they can. Girls do it too.
There’s no single right answer. Men are more likely to rekindle a past romance for sex because it’s easier with someone familiar rather than finding and courting a new partner. Women are more likely to do it for the emotional intimacy and security, the shoulder to lean on, which is easier to do with someone familiar rather than someone new.