I’ve noticed a pattern whenever I start texting a new guy. We’ll have a good back-and-forth for a few minutes, but then I’ll put my phone down for a bit—maybe I’m busy or just need a break. When I check my phone later and try to continue the conversation, I find out he’s already removed me.
It’s honestly confusing. Do they expect me to be glued to my phone the second we start talking? This has happened more than once, and it’s not just when I’m busy. Sometimes, if I fall asleep after texting late at night, I’ll wake up to find I’ve been removed. Seriously? Am I supposed to text “goodnight ❤️” every time? Because I’m not doing all that for someone I just started talking to.
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If this is always happening, then just end a conversation with, “I have to do X, I’ll text you later.”, “I’ll be a bit busy, so I might not be able to respond quickly”..
You make it sound like you drop the phone in the middle of a conversation lol
Wait, just how many times has this happened to you?
I don’t think i, as a guy, would do that. In fact, i have noticed that women do that with me. Strange you have experienced the other way round.
I work and usually keep busy so can not be online all the time, and if you genuinely want to meet someone or even be friends, there has to be some understanding.
Maybe the guy thinks he’s moved down the dating pecking order and your texting the next man? Maybe instead of communicating that with you, he just saves his potentially ruined emotions and preemptively cuts you off?
Not a dig. Devil’s advocate questions. In all transparency, it is odd to hear this not happen the other way round. Its usually the men who get cut off.
I think these are the ones that god is automatically taking out the trash !! Happens to me too!
This is actually good in my opinion. They are filtering themselves out. Less time wasted.
They rather remove you than wait for you to ghost them. They just suffering from PTSD.
I know it’s frustrating when it keeps happening, but try to reframe it: these guys are essentially screening themselves out before you waste more time on them. the right person will understand that you have a life outside your phone and won’t punish you for basic human behavior like sleeping or being busy :))
I feel like guys like this weed themselves out. If they can’t be patient enough for me to have a chance to reply, it’s better that they show that early so that I don’t waste any time.
The same happend for the guys with the girl: it’s a easy way to look for other that who seem more “interesting” to them. According me, it’s a toxic way to have a relation