How often did you end up dating someone you had a crush on?
September 17, 2025
What happened to said crush if it never went anywhere you hoped it would?
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Literally never once has a crush worked out for me. Every single one rejected me. I don’t actually think this is even that uncommon! I know there’s this idea among young men and teenage boys right now that women are drowning in affection from every man on the planet, but I can only think of one friend out of all the women I know who ever got her crush to go out with her.
It’s only happened twice for me, out of dozens and dozens of crushes over the years. I’m still with the last one it worked out with. I have other crushes from HS that I am still friends with to varying degrees. Getting older has only made me realize more and more that those crushes were just passing teenage fantasy, and realistically I am not at all compatible romantically with them!
100%
Even celeb crushes by some odd chance. I’m really just an unbelievably lucky person.
Oh.. actually maybe 90%. But that’s more a timing/location issue. We both like/crushed on each other as kids (our parents were best friends), I always assumed it was a one sided crush because he’s way too cool for me. By the time I found out he actually crushed on me the whole time too I was already in a LTR (with my now husband).
He’s seriously so handsome… his walk was so beautiful and self-assured. The first day he walked in it was like he got his own wind blown slo-mo scene of everybody turning and gawking at him.
zero
Never. Tbf I never made any effort to talk to my crushes either. In fact, I acted as if they didn’t exist at all so that it wasn’t obvious I had a crush on them.
happened a couple of times – i asked them out. plenty of other crushes i didn’t ask out though. there’s a giddiness to the first part, like being in bed with them and feeling like you’ve won the lottery. the rest is much like any other relationship really. neither of those relationships worked out but i still consider one a good friend. the other was much younger than i and has since transitioned. i’m very happy for them but i don’t miss them at all.
Yeah, a bunch of times. It never worked out so I married a man that I didn’t have a crush on. 😂 Best decision I ever made.
I’d never really reflected on this but…… I don’t really develop crushes first? I tend to go on dates and then gradually develop a crush on people. Idk it’s weird? I think it’s because I never ever crush on friends. Once we’re friends it’ll never be anything more than
Only once and he left the country soon after. My boyfriend on the other hand was my online friend/pen pal and we rushed into a relationship as soon as he loved here…
Like 90 percent of the time. I rarely have crushes, honestly. But ive also rarely been rejected. Im not hot. Im like a 6 at best
Most of the time but i only develop proper crushes once I’m already talking to them a bit not from afar only.
I don’t really have crushes that often, so apart from more minor teenage stuff, as an adult, pretty often tbh.
I had a crush on my ex-husband. I had an ever-increasing crush on my second (current, and almost certainly last! 😂) husband over the course of several years before we finally got together. I just really felt pretty early on like we were… supposed to be something. I just wasn’t sure what. I thought maybe he’d end up being my friend I quietly had a crush on for years and nothing would happen (for several complicated reasons, with living on different continents being a major one), but here we are. He’s absolutely my Person and the love of my life. I *did* spend several years massively hung up on another woman (I’m bi) and that didn’t go anywhere because she was straight. And with my ex-girlfriend, she was the one who was interested in me first. Oh and when I was 18 I very briefly dated a guy I knew from high school that I’d had a crush on since I was about 14 lol. No longterm connection there though.
Like I say, small sample size.
I rarely have crushes on people. It takes a lot for me to build attraction so in most cases I already had a connection with that person.
First crush- first teenage boyfriend. Awkward and silly but still glad I got to see it through.
Second crush- long winded situationship that really messed with my head and self esteem.
Looking back would have preferred if he just said he wasn’t interested.
Third crush- first long term relationship
I had a few relationships besides that but it was more of a mutual connection and not necessarily a crush situation
Never.
All of them. All except my current relationship ended up in pieces. But, I also think my current one might be it!
Always!
Some of my crushes were in relationships so those never went anywhere. If they were available, in retrospect, most of them returned interest but I was too oblivious to see it or in a couple instances my friends had an even bigger crush on them and out of respect for my friends I didn’t do anything about it.
The one time I asked a crush out I ended up marrying him. Still madly in love to this day. The reason I think I had relative success is that I always develop crushes on people where there is mutual chemistry. I know some people who fall for people just because they look good. That’s an impossible scenario for me. I fall for good personalities who show signs of liking me back.
What is it they say….? A crush is just a lack of information.
Or is that something else? 🤔🤷♀️🤭
Most times I’d say
I’ve had two crushes in my teen/early adult life that never became more than that, I’m still friends with one and lord knows where the other is 🤣🤷🏻♀️
Zero. In a way I prefer keeping it that way so I’m not disappointed
Always in parallel universe!
I think I’ve always ended up at least sleeping with people I’ve had a crush on. The one exception I can think of is a teacher I really fancied, but I was 15, so thank goodness that one didn’t work out! Oh – also a guy who I thought was super charismatic and fun – a ballet dancer, met him via a drama workshop. Somehow didn’t realise that he was extremely gay. So that didn’t happen either.
Often, as soon as I slept with them, the magic was gone. When it did turn into dating, it often didn’t last very long…although a few had more staying power. But I would say that in general, having a crush on someone is not a good predictor of a successful relationship.
Just once. Twenty years later we’re still together.
Pff not a lot. Usually I have crushes on people that aren’t interested in me and I end up dating people that have crushes on me.
Always
Considering how many crushes I’ve had, not often, but like… 1 long-term situationship (we liked each other but were a bit young, traumatized growing up, and bad at comms) and 1 year-long relationship. I tend to go to places with people 1on1 as an introvert, so even if I’m alone with a crush, it’s just a hang-out unless communicated otherwise.
I’m still in contact with some of them from the past 10 years, but people before that, nah. I guess at least one got married, more got into relationships, one got their dream motorcycle before I could even give them a motorcycle keychain (was broke at the time and then they moved away), one is still in uni. Sometimes, I miss their company, but I would want to date someone who wouldn’t fade away in my life for equal or less.
Pretty often
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Never. Lmao
Never, until I met my husband
Never lol. They just weren’t that interested in me. 🤷🏻♀️. Best relationships were built as potential relationships from day 1.
Sometimes sparks turn into something real, sometimes they just light up a memory. Either way, I’ve learned to enjoy the thrill of the crush itself and let the rest unfold naturally.
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Literally never once has a crush worked out for me. Every single one rejected me. I don’t actually think this is even that uncommon! I know there’s this idea among young men and teenage boys right now that women are drowning in affection from every man on the planet, but I can only think of one friend out of all the women I know who ever got her crush to go out with her.
It’s only happened twice for me, out of dozens and dozens of crushes over the years. I’m still with the last one it worked out with. I have other crushes from HS that I am still friends with to varying degrees. Getting older has only made me realize more and more that those crushes were just passing teenage fantasy, and realistically I am not at all compatible romantically with them!
100%
Even celeb crushes by some odd chance. I’m really just an unbelievably lucky person.
Oh.. actually maybe 90%. But that’s more a timing/location issue. We both like/crushed on each other as kids (our parents were best friends), I always assumed it was a one sided crush because he’s way too cool for me. By the time I found out he actually crushed on me the whole time too I was already in a LTR (with my now husband).
And I crushed on my husband too:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/s/wFQz8a9euK
He’s seriously so handsome… his walk was so beautiful and self-assured. The first day he walked in it was like he got his own wind blown slo-mo scene of everybody turning and gawking at him.
zero
Never. Tbf I never made any effort to talk to my crushes either. In fact, I acted as if they didn’t exist at all so that it wasn’t obvious I had a crush on them.
happened a couple of times – i asked them out. plenty of other crushes i didn’t ask out though. there’s a giddiness to the first part, like being in bed with them and feeling like you’ve won the lottery. the rest is much like any other relationship really. neither of those relationships worked out but i still consider one a good friend. the other was much younger than i and has since transitioned. i’m very happy for them but i don’t miss them at all.
Yeah, a bunch of times. It never worked out so I married a man that I didn’t have a crush on. 😂 Best decision I ever made.
I’d never really reflected on this but…… I don’t really develop crushes first? I tend to go on dates and then gradually develop a crush on people. Idk it’s weird? I think it’s because I never ever crush on friends. Once we’re friends it’ll never be anything more than
Only once and he left the country soon after. My boyfriend on the other hand was my online friend/pen pal and we rushed into a relationship as soon as he loved here…
Like 90 percent of the time. I rarely have crushes, honestly. But ive also rarely been rejected. Im not hot. Im like a 6 at best
Most of the time but i only develop proper crushes once I’m already talking to them a bit not from afar only.
I don’t really have crushes that often, so apart from more minor teenage stuff, as an adult, pretty often tbh.
I had a crush on my ex-husband. I had an ever-increasing crush on my second (current, and almost certainly last! 😂) husband over the course of several years before we finally got together. I just really felt pretty early on like we were… supposed to be something. I just wasn’t sure what. I thought maybe he’d end up being my friend I quietly had a crush on for years and nothing would happen (for several complicated reasons, with living on different continents being a major one), but here we are. He’s absolutely my Person and the love of my life. I *did* spend several years massively hung up on another woman (I’m bi) and that didn’t go anywhere because she was straight. And with my ex-girlfriend, she was the one who was interested in me first. Oh and when I was 18 I very briefly dated a guy I knew from high school that I’d had a crush on since I was about 14 lol. No longterm connection there though.
Like I say, small sample size.
I rarely have crushes on people. It takes a lot for me to build attraction so in most cases I already had a connection with that person.
First crush- first teenage boyfriend. Awkward and silly but still glad I got to see it through.
Second crush- long winded situationship that really messed with my head and self esteem.
Looking back would have preferred if he just said he wasn’t interested.
Third crush- first long term relationship
I had a few relationships besides that but it was more of a mutual connection and not necessarily a crush situation
Never.
All of them. All except my current relationship ended up in pieces. But, I also think my current one might be it!
Always!
Some of my crushes were in relationships so those never went anywhere. If they were available, in retrospect, most of them returned interest but I was too oblivious to see it or in a couple instances my friends had an even bigger crush on them and out of respect for my friends I didn’t do anything about it.
The one time I asked a crush out I ended up marrying him. Still madly in love to this day. The reason I think I had relative success is that I always develop crushes on people where there is mutual chemistry. I know some people who fall for people just because they look good. That’s an impossible scenario for me. I fall for good personalities who show signs of liking me back.
What is it they say….? A crush is just a lack of information.
Or is that something else? 🤔🤷♀️🤭
Most times I’d say
I’ve had two crushes in my teen/early adult life that never became more than that, I’m still friends with one and lord knows where the other is 🤣🤷🏻♀️
Zero. In a way I prefer keeping it that way so I’m not disappointed
Always in parallel universe!
I think I’ve always ended up at least sleeping with people I’ve had a crush on. The one exception I can think of is a teacher I really fancied, but I was 15, so thank goodness that one didn’t work out! Oh – also a guy who I thought was super charismatic and fun – a ballet dancer, met him via a drama workshop. Somehow didn’t realise that he was extremely gay. So that didn’t happen either.
Often, as soon as I slept with them, the magic was gone. When it did turn into dating, it often didn’t last very long…although a few had more staying power. But I would say that in general, having a crush on someone is not a good predictor of a successful relationship.
Just once. Twenty years later we’re still together.
Pff not a lot. Usually I have crushes on people that aren’t interested in me and I end up dating people that have crushes on me.
Always
Considering how many crushes I’ve had, not often, but like… 1 long-term situationship (we liked each other but were a bit young, traumatized growing up, and bad at comms) and 1 year-long relationship. I tend to go to places with people 1on1 as an introvert, so even if I’m alone with a crush, it’s just a hang-out unless communicated otherwise.
I’m still in contact with some of them from the past 10 years, but people before that, nah. I guess at least one got married, more got into relationships, one got their dream motorcycle before I could even give them a motorcycle keychain (was broke at the time and then they moved away), one is still in uni. Sometimes, I miss their company, but I would want to date someone who wouldn’t fade away in my life for equal or less.
Pretty often
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Never. Lmao
Never, until I met my husband
Never lol. They just weren’t that interested in me. 🤷🏻♀️. Best relationships were built as potential relationships from day 1.
Sometimes sparks turn into something real, sometimes they just light up a memory. Either way, I’ve learned to enjoy the thrill of the crush itself and let the rest unfold naturally.