I broke up with my ex a few months ago. We went no contact and then we started speaking to each other occasionally. He says he wants to get back together and promised that he was going to work on himself so he can be the best man/boyfriend for me. He cried a lot and his pain seemed genuine so i felt bad. But i’m still not sure if i should give him another chance.
You guys can feel free to look at my other posts to get a better idea of what our relationship was like. But ill also summarize it for you here. Basically my ex and i were like best friends. He’s the only person i was ever really close to. He was nice to me, he gave me compliments, uplifted me when i was sad, and bought me thoughtful gifts.
But we also had many issues. He claims that he’s lazy but i believe that he might be struggling with mental health issues because he used to get easily irritated and annoyed with me even when i’ve done nothing to upset him. He was unproductive and behind on his work (his boss called him out on it). He would only do 2 hours of work and either nap, watch netflix or play video games the rest of the day (he works from home). I was extremely understanding and would try to gently encourage him to do work or seek therapy but he never did. He on the other hand would make me feel bad because i only worked part time (i was having mental and physical health issues at the time).
Another problem we had is that he had many female friends but didn’t want me having any guy friends. One time, he went clubbing and stayed the night over at his close female friend’s place whom he used to have a crush on because he was too drunk to go home without asking for my permission.
But the biggest issue we had revolved around sex. On 3 separate occasions i told him that i was experiencing pain during sex but he still wanted to continue. One time the condom broke and he made me pay for plan B.
He has apologized for everything and is deeply regretful of everything he’s done and says he’ll change and never repeat those mistakes but i don’t know if i can trust him again.
What do you guys honestly think? Should i give him 1 more chance or never speak to him again?