I’m currently 23, I’m 8 months away from finishing my electrical engineering bachelors. I like to gym and kickbox, I have one amateur fight which was fun, I lost on desicion. I drink maybe 3-4 times a year, I’ve never done drugs. I’m just focused on my health, my degree/career, and just being a good person so I can be a good father/husband for my family. Sometimes I feel like it’s not worth it and want to go partying and go on adventures. For any man who sacrificed their 20’s do you regret not going on adventures?
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If it’s a sacrifice don’t do it
You should do these things because you think they’re the right things to do
I was an idiot in my 20’s but half way through I sacrificed to finish school and it was the best thing I ever did but you already got the degree. I think you should be living a bit. You’re not guaranteed tomorrow so don’t sacrifice it all. Go on some adventures!
Doesn’t sound like a sacrifice to me. You still have plenty of time for adventures. Don’t kid yourself
I wish i had done less partying and more of what you are doing
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If you do it right you can sacrifice your 20’s and then do w/e the fuck you want.
I traveled a ton in my 20’s and converted a car to live out of – blew a lot of money on experiences and I don’t regret a thing. But I do see that I could of gone out for *more* now with some smart saving and investment and now I have to work a little harder in my 30’s to catch up
It sounds like you’re not sacrificing anything? But making sound investments
Why can’t you work hard, but have some adventures along the way? You’re only 23.
Try it out both ways, you’ve got lots of time.
I’ve regretted partying and regretted being responsible.
You can have work and have fun at that age. My only caveat would be when you decide to settle down in your early 30’s watch out for woman that see you for your assets instead of you. If she didn’t work on herself, then find another.
Yes. Your 20s is the best time to work on yourself and your goals. You got the time to make mistakes, find a new way and come back stronger, and if you do it right, you have made a strong foundation that will last for the rest of your life.
Don’t piss your 20s away on girls, sex, parties, there will be plenty of time for that . And it will be big and better later in life
There’s always room for a healthy balance. You need to find time for fun and friends too
Regret is inevitable. You can work too hard in your 20’s and regret it in your 30’s. You can also party and adventure in your 20’s and you may also regret your decision in your 30’s.
The key is finding balance. And that balance point is different for everyone.
What I do want to say is you’ll never regret being healthy and discovering a workout you can enjoy and be consistent with.. So keep doing that.
I had a kid at 22 but I can’t speak for your situation because I did like all the drugs and drank all the liquor from 15-22, so I feel like I got it out of my system.
You don’t need to drink and smoke to party. Don’t sacrifice your body if you’re not into it.
If you don’t want to party, don’t party. Excessive partying and drugs can ruin your life.
Adventures though? Go on adventures. Those are not age specific. I’m 39 and still go on adventures. My wife and I did Italy without our son last month. It was a blast.
Build up your portfolio, both professional and financial. When you can afford a house, hopefully without a loan (fingers crossed for you) or with a loan that you can pay off in 10 or less years, buy it.
Don’t forget taking care of your health and having hobbies you like (and maybe make you money).
Regarding staring a family, I would’t start one until I’m financially stable with my own roof over my head.
Good luck ✌️
Stay progressing while enjoying the things you can. Don’t necessarily sacrifice your 20s but do try to get ahead. Go have some drinks, go on some adventures and spend time with family and friends. Work isn’t life and money doesn’t buy happiness.
As someone who didn’t sacrifice their 20’s I’d say stay on track. What you are doing now is going to set you up with good values for life. I partied, did drugs, skipped out on class and did stupid shit. I don’t regret any of it and have some good stories but I’m now trying to actively avoid those types of decisions. I didn’t start working out consistently until I was in my late 20’s and I regret that. I recently quit drinking because A) it’s not good for my health and B) the type of people who I have met drinking or drink a lot is no longer the company I want to keep.
Long story short, stay on track. Give yourself some leniency and have fun but don’t throw anything away for partying and trying to be “cool”. You’ll hit a point where those things don’t matter to you anymore. You can still have adventures and real life experiences without losing discipline.
no one is really ‘sacrificing’ their 20s though, are they? it’s not like you’re in prison.
This book would be a good read for you
https://open.spotify.com/show/1IBqR7EEsMNvkNjoEmhz23?si=uMdmwEA9SXem61Tua0Uf9Q
“sacrifice” is subjective here.
I jumped feet-first into family life in my early 20s which meant losing out on the carefree social life. Now I’m 39 and nearly an empty nester. I loved the experience of being a father, and don’t feel like I missed out on anything. My now ex-wife is different. She went stir-crazy right here at the end and decided to leave the family to go explore her social hobbies and go on “adventures” or whatever. She feels like our 20s were “sacrificed,” but I don’t at all. It all depends on what’s important to you, man.
I sacrificed most of my 20’s for partying…it’s not all it’s hyped up to be. You’re on the right track. Party once in a while, but just stay focused on what’s really important; health, family, career, etc.
Yes.
You can still have adventures. Find a medium. Partying is fun, but isn’t fulfilling.
Honestly I spend most of my 20s partying and I really regret it.
It was not what you see in the movies, I didn’t make awesome friends. I didn’t get laid all the time. I really just kinda fell behind the rest of the universe e
It’s not all or nothing.
You sound like a badass. Make time for good relationships, do some traveling and spend some time outdoors.
Drinking and partying is a waste. But going on backpacking and skiing trips with your friends is stuff you will really value when you get older.
My best time was my 30s and 40s, when I could afford to do the awesome things after the military and college.
There’s nothing special about partying and other degenerate bullshit. It’s the adult equivalent to gorging yourself on candy.
I’m on the other end of your scenario.
In my 20s I started a good job for the company I’m still with, I’ve been here 28 years and I’m a manager now.
But other than my career I spent my time smoking weed, drinking, gambling and chasing women.
I could have spent those years doing things that would have improved my career options, saving money or buying a house 10-15 years before I ever did.
Keep doing what you’re doing and when you’re my age you’ll be set up and living good
100% do not sacrifice your 20s. Coming from a 40 year old who rushed college and law school, graduated early, went straight to working and haven’t stopped since, and now married with a kid
The saying is true, youth is wasted on the young. Live your life, do all the things, see all the places, have no regrets. Spend time on yourself. Learn who you are, learn your traumas and work on them. It’s all an investment in yourself.
You can do both.