Hi there,
I just wanted to hear your opinion on something which recently happened with my girlfriend (22F) of 2 and a half years.
I (23M) moved to Australia 2 years ago as a student and have been having a really hard time getting along with life here. I have made zero meaningful connections with people here and compared to how I was back in my home country, lead an extremely solitary, isolated life. Non of my family or loved ones are here with me.
Last week I had a breakdown of sorts, I felt really bad about what my life had come to, felt stuck and that I had willingly made it much worse. It was always an underlying feeling but with time it just kept getting worse. So when I was going through this, I texted my girlfriend about it, i told her how I felt and also mentioned that I had "un-aliving" thoughts. (I do bring up my issues with her but these thoughts come to my head very rarely.)
She replied instantly and told me that we'll talk about it soon. She couldn't talk at the moment cause she was on the way to a dermatologist appointment which was scheduled just moments after. So I understood and waited for it to be over. Once it was over, she gave me the rundown of what the doctor said and mentioned that since her uni is starting soon, she needs to get some clothes ( cause she was already in the city). I found it odd that she didn't bring up my issue but I waited.
Later, she proceeded to talk about how she's out of sunscreen and needs to get more of it. That amount of negligence was really hurtful so I confronted her, I asked her why she didn't bring it up, cause if it was me the first thing I would've done when I got out of the appointment is call her. She replied to it saying "I'm sorry I just brought these things up cause they were relevant to the appointment, and I wanted to wait till I get home to properly talk to you, and also when a person feels that way what we've learned is that it's best to try to make it seem like a lesser deal than it is." ( she studies psychology)
Later once she got home, she did end up talking to me but it just didn't feel right. I feel like she's emotionally detached but when I ask she always says she isn't.
What do you make of this guys? Also, thank you so much for reading all of this.
TL;DR: I (23M) recently had a breakdown and told my girlfriend (22F) I was having "un-aliving" thoughts. She seemed to brush it off at first, talking about her appointment and errands before addressing it later. When I confronted her, she said she wanted to downplay it until she got home and spoke properly. Even then, it felt detached. I’m unsure if she’s emotionally distant or just handling it differently. What do you make of this?