What is a clear sign you should stop being friends with a man?
September 15, 2025
What is a clear sign you should stop being friends with a man?
28 comments
You don’t want to be friends with him anymore..
When they keep making sexual comments either about you or to you.
When you’re not in a relationship with him.
When, like all friendships, boundaries are crossed or you don’t want to be friends anymore, you don’t have to stay where you don’t want to be.
If they’re constantly objectifying you and comparing body parts to other women. Sadly, that was my experience.
I don’t believe it can exist- a platonic relationship with a man but call me old fashioned idc
When they want to make sexually explicit jokes at your expense
In my case, it was my very first boyfriend when I was 17 he encouraged me to hang out with him getting drunk and messing about with cannabis. We got arrested on a Friday night and I spent my entire birthday in a cell all weekend it was horrible. I realise that I need a better boyfriend i’ve been struggling with my drinking and other problems ever since.🫢🤭🤦♀️
When boundaries are crossed and they make you feel uncomfortable…
when he treats you like a man 🚩
Obviously mysogynistic opinions and views. When he keeps dropping hints and crossing boundaries. When he starts acting differently towards you once you get a man and treats you like property. Disrespect.
no apology for their own fault and no expression of thankfulness to your help.
The pass comments or talk about other girls thinking you’ll enjoy
For me, when they keep trying to “test the waters” to see if you’re receptive to hooking up.
If I have very clearly articulated that I am not interested and I will never be interested and they keep sexualizing our friendship, time to go.
Edit to add: If they start disrespecting their partners in front of you, time to go.
Had a male friend do this months ago. 6 years of friendship down the drain bc this mf said he’d cheat on her with me “without hesitation” – that’s not a fucking compliment. So gross. Blocked so fast. I should’ve cut him off sooner.
He wants more than friendship and can’t respect that.
He blurs boundaries, even if it’s subtle.
He disrespects you in other ways.
You’ve simply grown apart.
They make you feel uncomfortable in any form
When he wants credit for “being nice.” That’s a preschool level skill
I’d say if you’re asking a subreddit it’s probably time lol
Not wanting to be friends with him? That’s a pretty good sign.
More seriously, if you don’t feel safer with him than you do alone, you better be alone
When you feel like your boundaries have been crossed
My friendship of 25 years is about to end. This man has been spouting Tate-esque crap at me for years. I let it slide bc we’re friends and it wasnt over the top. Im not romantically attracted to him. In my head he knows this.
Well well well…he did not know that. Ive laid it out 3 times in 2 months. The ‘nice guy’ stuff has begun. I am so angry about it. Why would he do this?! Dude.
If you do not feel like this person is safe or trustworthy, I’d recommend reconsidering their friendship. If they don’t respect boundaries and feel pushy, judgmental, controlling, coercive, or manipulative in any way, then stepping away is always safest. If being around a person does not feel safe and comfortable, then their friendship may not be good for you.
When he keeps crossing boundaries. I cut off a male friend because he kept hinting that he wanted a relationship with me after me making it clear MULTIPLE times that it would never happen (One was because he was a convicted felon and had a rap sheet longer than I was tall)
Struggling with this right now.. this guy friend I have is great during phone calls, but not the best at texting. It’s only ever a good morning, how are you, yo or okay. I’m the only one who ever sends silly things or brings up things about my life. It’s tiring but I don’t know if it’s a valid enough reason to end the “friendship.” He also never asks to hang so I really don’t know what his goal is..
when he always finds a reason to touch you. may it be a pat on the head or a weird hug or something.
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They don’t show up for you
When they start saying disrespectful shit about women in front of you
28 comments
You don’t want to be friends with him anymore..
When they keep making sexual comments either about you or to you.
When you’re not in a relationship with him.
When, like all friendships, boundaries are crossed or you don’t want to be friends anymore, you don’t have to stay where you don’t want to be.
If they’re constantly objectifying you and comparing body parts to other women. Sadly, that was my experience.
I don’t believe it can exist- a platonic relationship with a man but call me old fashioned idc
When they want to make sexually explicit jokes at your expense
In my case, it was my very first boyfriend when I was 17 he encouraged me to hang out with him getting drunk and messing about with cannabis. We got arrested on a Friday night and I spent my entire birthday in a cell all weekend it was horrible. I realise that I need a better boyfriend i’ve been struggling with my drinking and other problems ever since.🫢🤭🤦♀️
When boundaries are crossed and they make you feel uncomfortable…
when he treats you like a man 🚩
Obviously mysogynistic opinions and views. When he keeps dropping hints and crossing boundaries. When he starts acting differently towards you once you get a man and treats you like property. Disrespect.
no apology for their own fault and no expression of thankfulness to your help.
The pass comments or talk about other girls thinking you’ll enjoy
For me, when they keep trying to “test the waters” to see if you’re receptive to hooking up.
If I have very clearly articulated that I am not interested and I will never be interested and they keep sexualizing our friendship, time to go.
Edit to add: If they start disrespecting their partners in front of you, time to go.
Had a male friend do this months ago. 6 years of friendship down the drain bc this mf said he’d cheat on her with me “without hesitation” – that’s not a fucking compliment. So gross. Blocked so fast. I should’ve cut him off sooner.
He wants more than friendship and can’t respect that.
He blurs boundaries, even if it’s subtle.
He disrespects you in other ways.
You’ve simply grown apart.
They make you feel uncomfortable in any form
When he wants credit for “being nice.” That’s a preschool level skill
I’d say if you’re asking a subreddit it’s probably time lol
Not wanting to be friends with him? That’s a pretty good sign.
More seriously, if you don’t feel safer with him than you do alone, you better be alone
When you feel like your boundaries have been crossed
My friendship of 25 years is about to end. This man has been spouting Tate-esque crap at me for years. I let it slide bc we’re friends and it wasnt over the top. Im not romantically attracted to him. In my head he knows this.
Well well well…he did not know that. Ive laid it out 3 times in 2 months. The ‘nice guy’ stuff has begun. I am so angry about it. Why would he do this?! Dude.
If you do not feel like this person is safe or trustworthy, I’d recommend reconsidering their friendship. If they don’t respect boundaries and feel pushy, judgmental, controlling, coercive, or manipulative in any way, then stepping away is always safest. If being around a person does not feel safe and comfortable, then their friendship may not be good for you.
When he keeps crossing boundaries. I cut off a male friend because he kept hinting that he wanted a relationship with me after me making it clear MULTIPLE times that it would never happen (One was because he was a convicted felon and had a rap sheet longer than I was tall)
Struggling with this right now.. this guy friend I have is great during phone calls, but not the best at texting. It’s only ever a good morning, how are you, yo or okay. I’m the only one who ever sends silly things or brings up things about my life. It’s tiring but I don’t know if it’s a valid enough reason to end the “friendship.” He also never asks to hang so I really don’t know what his goal is..
when he always finds a reason to touch you. may it be a pat on the head or a weird hug or something.
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They don’t show up for you
When they start saying disrespectful shit about women in front of you