I have been seeing a guy for about 3 months now. We are not in a relationship but we are exclusive.
He stays at my place about two times a week. I’ve noticed recently that we are not usually having sex unless I make the first move while we are making out. He has no problem initiating a make out.
He made the comment once after we had sex “I hope you don’t think I come over here just to have sex with you.” I was a little confused by this because we go on probably 2-3 dates a week, it’s not like he’s just hitting me up to come over. I told him I don’t feel like that all and he said he just doesn’t want me to feel disrespected. I told him I don’t and that sometimes he makes me feel like a perv for always being the one to come onto him. He said he doesn’t see it that way at all.
If we’re drunk he has no problem making the first move. I’m not sure how else to communicate with him that I am okay with him making a move and I don’t find it disrespectful. As a girl, I don’t mind making the first move but it also makes me feel good when a guy does it first.
I’ve explained all that to him so I’m not sure how else I can ease his mind.