I’m 25M and have only had one partner before. About 3 years ago I met a friend (25F) at university. At the time I had a girlfriend, and honestly she didn’t really catch my attention back then. We barely talked in class and mostly interacted in group study sessions.
Recently we’ve started talking more during breaks between classes, and I feel really comfortable with her, even though our conversations rarely go beyond school stuff.
The confusing part is I can’t figure out how I actually feel about her. Sometimes I feel like I like her, but other times I’m not so sure. She didn’t immediately stand out to me—it’s been a very gradual thing, which makes me doubt if it’s real attraction or just comfort.
To complicate things, she’s my classmate. If I tried to hint at something (and I’m not great at flirting), it could make things awkward and I’d risk losing the friendship.
How can I know if I genuinely like her, or if I’m just overthinking it?
TL;DR: Met a friend 3 years ago at uni, didn’t think much of her back then. Now we talk more and I feel comfortable around her, but I can’t tell if I actually like her or if I’m just overthinking. Don’t wanna risk the friendship if I try something.