My wife and I met in 2013.
We got married in 2019.
Had kids since.
Recently, I found out I have hsv2 antibodies/herpes.
Never had an outbreak.
When I met her, a few weeks before I hooked up with someone after a bad break up and found out that person had it.
I got tested and always came back negative [I'll explain]
However, after an intimate evening with my wife, I felt off.
I got tested and found out that all these years when I got STD tested, hsv is not part of standard panel.
I tested positive.
My wife was loving and caring. She wasn't upset and mad. A little pissed I never told her about that hook up but I thought I was in the clear, not realizing that was the only test I didn't get.
I checked my medical records, it was never tested.
My wife never got it. She's not worried.
I didn't know it can lay dormant. Never had an outbreak. Legit thought I was in the clear.
I asked to do marriage counseling because I was struggling in our relationship and feeling tainted and less than and didn't think I should be with her anymore.
She and our counselor have been encouraging that it is what it is. No biggie. Just be more cautious.
But that was it. No yelling, no screaming, no nothing. No punishing me.
It's a grace I just don't understand.
I don't deserve it and I'm just struggling.