What is the point of life when I am constantly exhausted by it?

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1. Drugs sound custom made for you.

2. What did you dream of doing when you were young?

3. This sounds like depression. 

   I think you should get physical exams to rule out physiological causes. (Thyroid, testosterone, etc.)

   As far as goals – you should set your own and make them ones you want to achieve. Certainly just living for subsistence is bleak.

   In my experience, disciplined habits with several modest goals at once go the furthest to relatively quickly reminding you that you’re more capable than you’re allowing yourself to believe.

4. Uh… has anyone told you feelings are not an instruction manual on how to live your life? Do you realize how many times you have mentioned “feeling” in your post? Feeling is the King of you.

5. You sound exactly like me, even down to the binge eating and just wanting to go to bed so the day is over. Seems like depression at first glance, but have you ever been evaluated for ADHD? Inattentive type ADHD symptoms can manifest in ways that look like depression. Medication could be helpful either way. Try to find a psychiatrist and get a real evaluation.

6. Your life currently has no purpose. Nihilism is the current terminology but the book of Ecclesiastes in the Bible addresses this exact issue. Might be worth a read.

7. Yeah, I feel this. Going through the day to day in this life with nothing to look forward to, no sense of the future and not being able to derive pleasure or meaning from most things is a hell that wears you down into a nub. It’s impossible to fully describe to other people who’ve never dealt with it how bleak and nightmarish it is to be living just to mark off time before you die, wishing you could fast forward. I wish I had an answer for you, but it’s something I deal with every day as well. Hopefully you find an answer that works for you.

8. What country are you from? How old are you? What is your diet like? Have you ever done any blood tests to check for deficiencies? What do you consider “feeling alive”? Give me an example of when you felt alive.

9. Maybe the point of life isn’t big moments—it’s surviving and finding those tiny sparks that make the exhaustion a little more bearable. You mentioned trying self-help books, but your post is full of negative self-talk. Reprogram your mind, bro—learn to appreciate being alive, even in small ways. If you haven’t, it might also be worth checking your testosterone levels or talking to a doctor about depression. I felt the same way for years, and Zoloft actually helped me start looking forward to little things again.

10. It sounds like you’re anhedonic ie you don’t enjoy anything at some point it may be biological. What kind of biological interventions have you done?

11. I started sleeping 12 hours just so time goes quicker… 😆

    Ive always felt like this. Just passing time till it’s over. 

12. A therapist asked me a question one time…

    “If you woke up tomorrow, and every was better, what would actually be different?”

    Write those things down, and you’ve got yourself an action list.

    It sounds like depression, but I guess you already knew that.

13. Me I got used to the mundane. If it’s boring it means I’m at peace.

14. Sounds like depression, possibly vitamin deficit, and have your blood tested. Try mushrooms it might help.

15. This is blatantly depression.

    Antidepressants arent a fix all but they can steady you out a lot.

    The obvious ones like do some exercise, socialise at least once per week, go outside for pleasure at least 30 minutes a day are the most basic pieces of advice.

    Honestly, recovery is usually slow and you often come back piece by piece over the course of a year or two

16. I have a lot of depression since an early age. but yours sounds worse. I have to agree, therapists have been next to zero help. Medications made things worse. I do enjoy food, some movies. Meditating. if I could live being underwater or floating on water I’d be happier. sometime I think I’m not made to be a land animal. But little things, like just doing the dishes makes me feel a little better. I’ll have coffee a couple times a week and for about an hour I feel like, “oh, this is what it must be like to not be constantly depressed“. But coffee doesn’t work every time like that. I do know one thing, sleeping 10 hours is something that makes me even more tired. even 30 minutes of exercise is a big help. All those joggers and etc, they’re probably all seeking a high. I hope you can find something. I find little things here and there, but I’d say I’m 70 percent of the time not motivated, so much is too difficult, few friend, too many problems. I think at age five I didn’t exactly wish I were dead but, the thought of never being born seemed fine. Psyllium fiber helps pooping. idk why I brought that up, but gut health can effect your whole self and mood. sometimes I could be in a beautiful place along a stream beautiful light and water, and I just feel like crying.

17. You sound exactly like me with one tiny difference. I have done everything I wanted when I was 27.

    I literally don’t understand the majority of people in this life. Either they pretend to be happy and content or there is something wrong with me.

    For example, I don’t understand the need of spending time with friends all the time by eating / drinking / partying / vacationing etc. I have no constant energy and desire to do this. I have not been dating for years and maybe the worse thing is I don’t feel any desire to date a woman. (I keep satisfying my sexual desires by attending themed parties) I sometimes travel inside Europe (I live in Europe) and I have small circle of friends who I see literally couple of times per year.

    I don’t have any dreams, I don’t have any targets and I don’t have any desire for anything. I feel like, I am being forced to live and pretending like everything is okay.

18. These idiots telling you to do some drugs are exactly that, idiots. Sounds like you have clinical depression and you really should go talk to an actual doctor about it, not a self help guru. Get on some medication and stuff will start to look better

19. Yeah, I’m legit just waiting for my mother and dog to shuffle off this mortal coil then I’m following

20. Life isn’t here to entertain you. There’s plenty of struggling people working their asses off to live a better life. Try looking at life from someone else’s perspective and get over yourself.

    Sorry if that’s harsh. Some people really struggle to have a good life. You’re just not seeing how good things are or can be.

21. You have to find something that excites/inspires you. Only way to do that is try a bunch of stuff whenever you can until something clicks. Unfortunately, there’s no shortcut on that quest, but I recommend starting with some things that help other people and make you feel more connected. Good luck!

22. Hm might be depression, im feeling the same and recognizing the details but its not fully affecting my daily life…yet to consider a diagnosis. Thought there are pseudo depression or periods of low energy and dissatisfaction in life. I met most of my goals except marriage but thats because i weed out alot of the females and vice versa. Havent found my one yet

23. I think it’s interesting that you’re trying lots of things but are you doing the specific things that deep down you want to do? I don’t necessarily mean novel experiences but more of life-altering decisions that you’re afraid to take because of the perceived risk. For example, giving up a cushy job to pursue a job that pays less well but enriches your life.

    As someone who had a less than conventional start to my career, I only found what I enjoyed to do that paid well and gave me some purpose in my late to mid-thirties. Before that I was doing work that gave me meaning but always gave me anxiety about the future as I felt like my financial and career trajectory had plateaued.

    The nice thing about purpose at work is it doesn’t need to be grand and is not restricted to certain jobs – it’s determined by your approach at how you do your job. I’m only saying this to put to rest the misconception that you have to suffer financially in order to find purposeful work.

    To sum things up, I’ve been where you’re at and trying stuff out in earnest, making the hard decisions, learning how to be better at something and crafting your own meaning is how I got out of a rut. I don’t really have any what-ifs left in my life atm. Neither do I have any grand purpose – I just find problems and then fix them which gives me immense satisfaction 😅. It would be nice to have a partner in life but until then, I cultivate meaningful friendships as well as find hobbies that I can engage with solo or in a group.

    So:
    1. You’re seeing a therapist already so I’ll assume you know whether you’re depressed. Pretty sure they’ll pick it up too and if they haven’t, I really don’t think this is the case.

    2. Are there decisions you’re afraid to take? Maybe they need closer inspection. Knowing why you feel you need to make those decisions can be just as valuable as taking them because both lead to a better understanding of your own motivations.

24. Sounds like you should try meds or drugs. I know you say you hear the don’t work, but just try. Fuck it.